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Find everything in one place
Look for the safety icon in the header, or check your Matches page, both lead to the same centralized set of tools. No need to dig through menus to find what you're looking for when it actually matters.
Everything You Need to Feel Supported, in One Place
Feeling safe is part of feeling ready to connect. Safety Settings brings our safety tools together in one place, reachable from the header icon or your Matches page. From in-the-moment nudges to letting a friend know about your plans, it's built to support you at every step, not just after something's gone wrong.
How does it work?
Support built into the moments that matter
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Get proactive nudges as you talk
Our Message Safety Pledge sets the tone for respectful conversation from the start. Before you send something that might come across the wrong way, our Are You Sure prompt gives you a chance to reconsider, and if a conversation starts moving toward sharing money or contact details too quickly, our Inline Fraud Tip flags it in the moment.
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Let a friend know about your date
With a mutual match, Date Checkin lets you notify a friend that you're heading into a date, so someone else knows your plans, without you having to explain the details yourself.
Free feature
A centralized place for every safety tool
No need to dig through menus when it actually matters. Look for the safety icon in the header, or check your Matches page, both lead to the same centralized set of tools, so you always know exactly where to find them.
- Access every safety tool from one place
- Reachable from the header icon
- Also available from your Matches page
- No digging through settings to find what you need
Free feature
A check-in before you send something you might regret
Before you send a message that might come across the wrong way, our Are You Sure prompt checks in with you first and gives you a chance to reconsider. It's a small pause, right when it's most useful.
- A quick check-in before a risky message goes out
- A chance to reconsider before you send
- Built to catch moments of frustration or heat
- Helps keep conversations respectful, by design
Free feature
A shared commitment to respectful conversations
Our Message Safety Pledge asks every member to confirm they'll keep conversations safe and respectful, right from the start. It sets the tone before a single message is exchanged, so everyone begins on the same footing.
- A shared commitment, agreed to upfront
- Sets the tone before conversations begin
- Applies to every member on the platform
- A simple way to encourage respectful communication
Free feature
A flag before a scam has a chance
If a conversation starts moving toward sharing money or contact details too quickly, our Inline Fraud Tip flags it in the moment, right when it matters most, before it goes any further.
- Flags conversations that look like a common scam pattern
- Appears right when the risk shows up
- Triggered by requests for money or contact details
- A proactive nudge, not just an after-the-fact warning
Free feature
Let a friend know about your date
Meeting someone you've only known online, in person, for the first time, is a genuine leap of faith, especially when you're the one walking into an unfamiliar place to meet a stranger. Date Checkin means you don't have to do that quietly. With a mutual match, notify a friend that you're heading out, where, and with whom, so someone outside the conversation knows your plans before you even leave the house.
- Notify a friend before you head into a date
- Share where you're going and who you're meeting
- Works with any mutual match
- One more layer of real-world reassurance
FAQ
Safety Settings brings our safety tools together in one place, reachable from the header icon or your Matches page, so you always know where to find them.
Look for the safety icon in the header, or check your Matches page. Both lead to the same centralized set of tools.
Yes. If a message you're about to send might come across as inappropriate, our Are You Sure prompt checks in with you first and gives you a chance to reconsider.
It's a consent message shown to members to help set the tone for safe, respectful communication from the very start of a conversation.
Yes. If a conversation starts moving toward sharing money or contact details too quickly, our Inline Fraud Tip flags it in the moment, right when it matters most.
Safety is something we build into the product itself: phone verification, the Message Safety Pledge, the Are You Sure check, the Inline Fraud Tip, and a centralized Safety Settings hub, alongside our broader safety guidelines.
Yes. Beyond verification and reporting, our Inline Fraud Tip flags conversations in the moment if they start moving toward sharing money or contact details too quickly.
Yes. With a mutual match, Date Checkin lets you notify a friend that you're heading into a date, so someone else knows your plans.
With a mutual match, you can notify a friend that you're heading into a date. They'll know your plans, without you having to explain the details yourself. For a full first-date safety checklist, see our Safety advices guide.