How To Be Sure That a Man is Interested in You?

He seems to enjoy spending time with you. He looks at you straight in the eyes. He seems to respond to your flirting. But he hasn’t made his move, and it doesn’t look like he will be trying anytime soon. It could be up to you to make the move, but how can you be sure if he really likes you and isn’t just being friendly?

Top Signs That He is Interested in You

It is not always easy to be emotionally accessible, especially when it means putting yourself in a vulnerable position or risk ridicule. But there is slippage—a glance here, a laugh there, a light touch of your hand. If a man really likes you, they won’t be able to resist getting close  and doing the things that infatuated people do.

They could also be conscious actions. After all, while saying “I really like you and would like to go on a date with you” risks heartbreak and embarrassment, a little flirting is easy to dismiss as harmless, friendly banter if it goes wrong.

So, let’s look at some of the signs a guy likes you.

Body Language Signs That He’s Into You

If they have a crush on you, they’ll want to get close, often without realizing it.

He Leans Into You

They want to get closer to you. Slight movements are often unconscious. It all comes down to attraction and his need to be near. More exaggerated movements could mean he is preparing for a kiss or wants to know if you are receptive to one.

He Makes an Excuse to Touch You

Any excuse will do, whether he is brushing something off your arm, placing a hand on your back or shoulder as he shimmies by, or holding your hand or wrist.

He Smiles at You a Lot

He is happy in your presence, so he smiles. He also wants to come across as friendly and approachable. The type of smile is important, too. Is he smiling with his eyes? Is it genuine?

He Makes Eye Contact

You have to be careful when it comes to judging eye contact. Just because he makes unbroken eye contact with you doesn’t mean he likes you. By the same token, turning away doesn’t mean he dislikes you. The former could indicate friendliness or attentiveness, while the latter could be a result of awkwardness.

What matters is how his behavior differs from other people. If he always seems disinterested in other people and doesn’t make eye contact, yet he is constantly drawn to your eyes, it’s a very good sign. A few furtive glances at your lips may also suggest he is thinking about kissing you.

He Mirrors Your Movements

Mirroring is often subtle and unconscious. He will literally mirror your movements, such as touching his face or running a hand through his hair. It’s slight, so you have to be paying attention.

Online Signs That He is Into You

Judging whether he likes you or not is a different ballgame online. The signs can be subtle. If he has a big crush on you and is looking for some kind of relationship, the digital trail may be even bigger than the physical one.

Interest Through Social Media Engagement

Is he always the first one to like your pictures on social media? Does he read your messages quickly and reply without delay? Does he regularly try to initiate a conversation? All of these things suggest he wants to be more than a friend. As with eye contact, it comes down to routine behavior.

If you’re getting preferential treatment, he’s into you. If he’s like that with everyone, he might not be.

Don’t worry if he completely dismisses your posts. He could still be into you and might just not want to make it obvious. He also might not spend much time on social media.

Texting Patterns Showing Interest

Check back over your text correspondence with him. Who is speaking the most, who initiates most of the conversation, and who replies the quickest? If it’s him, it’s a good sign.

Analyzing Non-Verbal Cues

In addition to his body language, there are other ways he might show interest:

He Asks You About Your Love Life

A question like, “So, how is your love life going?” or “Did things not work out with that last guy?” may seem harmless. He could just be making conversation and showing a friendly interest. But he could also be keeping tabs on you and making sure you’re still free and single.

To confirm, you could respond by telling him about a guy you met and/or like. Pay attention to his reaction. Does his expression falter? Does that smile seem genuine or forced? And when you conclude by saying it didn’t work out or the other guy wasn’t a good fit, look for any changes that suggest he is happy or relieved.

He Wants to Spend More Time With You

He will do everything he can to spend more time with you. He will go out of his way, cancel appointments, and even agree to see you when he is very tired, busy, or unwell. If he keeps all of his commitments with you, it’s a huge step in the right direction.

Understanding How He Socially Behaves With You

If you are his main focus, all of his attention will be on you, even if there are a lot of people around. He will keep coming back to you when circling around busy parties, and will always look at you across crowded rooms. He’ll want to impress you as well, which means leaving a big tip at a restaurant, agreeing to pay for everything, and paying you a compliment at every opportunity.

He’s showing you that he’s the person you should be with, the perfect man you need in your life.

When He Introduces You to His Inner Circle

Has he introduced you to his friends or his family? He could be showing you off and preparing to get closer to you. He wants to be in a relationship someday, at which point you will need to meet those people anyway. He’s just skipping a few steps.

His friends could also give the game away. If they clearly know about you, it means he’s been talking a lot about you, and if his best friend is asking you a lot of questions, it means they probably know about the crush and are seeing if you’re good enough.

Do Not Misinterpret Signs

It’s easy to misread signs, and those misinterpretations could take you either way:

• Just because he doesn’t like your pictures online doesn’t mean he’s not interested. He might be shy or not very active online.
• Eye contact, smiling, and laughing may indicate politeness.
• Touching you and getting close could indicate that he is a very tactile person.
• Spending time with you could just mean he enjoys your company.

If he is a coworker, misinterpretations are more common, as he wants to maintain a level of professionalism and politeness to make work life easier.

Conclusion: How to Tell if a Man Is Interested in You

There’s a cliche that states women are complicated, and you can never understand what they’re thinking. It’s one that did the rounds on countless sitcoms and romcoms. But it’s not just women. The same could be said for men—it’s a human problem, and it’s a human problem because we struggle to understand people who think differently from us.

Look at the following popular search terms, all of which are common among young women, and try telling us that men are simple and women always know what they’re thinking:

• How to be sure that he is into me
• How to know if he likes me
• Why does he not like me back?
• Why does he do that?
• Does he like me?

If he’s not making it obvious by telling you, look out for the signs discussed above. If he is genuinely interested and not a soulless robot, there will be signs.

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