Sexy After 50

If you're over 50, count your blessings. Read on for 5 reasons why you're sexier now than ever.

By Marcy Barack

hen you're over 50, it's hard to feel sexy—or is it? Guys are testosterone-programmed to zero in on 20-somethings in their breeding prime. Most youthful pairings have more to do with hormones than harmony of character. Too often,
And who says you have to confine your lovemaking to the bedroom?
such matches end in divorce as partners mature and regret their youthful folly.

But having a relationship with a woman of a certain age offers delights never dreamed of by shortsighted boys just embarking on their manhood. Sexy screen sirens like Susan Sarandon and Meryl Streep, journalist Jane Pauley and political pundit Arianna Huffington, are some celebrities who demonstrate that women who have hit the half-century mark are great catches.

1. There's no need to worry about getting knocked up
Most of us grew up with the specter of an unwanted pregnancy perched like a grotesque hood ornament over the backseat of the car, the living room sofa, the marital bed. Now, the monthly ebb and flow of your fertility has likely ended. You can finally hop into bed without that nagging fear of the possible consequences—nine months of swollen ankles and another 20 years of worrying about chicken pox and college tuition. Have as much fun as you want with your lover without checking the calendar, popping a daily pill or inserting a diaphragm.

2. Your figure is rounder
You've no longer got the chest of a 15-year-old boy. As you get older, you've filled out. The words voluptuous and zaftig were made to describe you. Think of yourself as the subject of a Rubens painting. Now that you've got such luscious curves, enjoy them.

3. Self-confidence is sexy
Remember when you were in the first throes of a new romance, all of a sudden you got hit on a lot? That's
Self-confidence is the biggest turn-on.
because you radiated self-confidence; you were loved. Now, in your mature adult years, you should have plenty of self-confidence in your ability to balance a job, the ex, the kids, the bank account, the aging parents, friends, etc. Self-confidence is the biggest turn-on and once you've reached 50, you've got plenty of it.

4. Been there, done that
Now you know what you like. You are a better lover than you were at 20 because you know what turns you on, and you're comfortable telling your partner exactly what you need. Indulge yourself.

5. Older women are more daring
They're the ones signing up for all that adventure travel. Odds are you'll find more older women than men on cruises to the Antarctic, treks through Nepal and gorilla-watching expeditions in Africa. Women are more liberated when the kids move out and allow them to reclaim the lives they put on hold decades ago with their first delivery. That newfound freedom extends into the bedroom. You can experiment with lovemaking techniques that made you blush decades ago. And you no longer need to lock the bedroom door against nocturnal invasions by little ones seeking solace from a storm or nightmares. And who says you have to confine your lovemaking to the bedroom?

Marcy Barack is a freelance writer who contributes to Happen magazine.
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