Purse Must-Haves For Dates, Page Two

Purse Must-Haves For Dates, Page Two…Kimberly Dawn Neumann
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Date-worthy purse pick #6: Hairspray
You might expect this to be lumped in with the rest of the stuff listed above, but a trial-sized aerosol hairspray can actually be used as a security device. The NYPD detective we spoke with suggested that women should always carry pepper spray or
You should always carry a little mini-pack of tissues in your purse.
OC spray (OC stands for oleoresin capsicum, the spray’s active ingredient) if they live in an area that allows it. Be sure to check your local laws before purchasing any self-defense items; in some places, carrying OC spray may be lawful, while other chemical sprays (like mace) may be prohibited — and in certain areas, none of these items are legal. But in a pinch, the detective we spoke with explained the viability of using a shot of aerosol hairspray as a defense mechanism. This could come in handy if you need to fend off your date for some unfortunate reason, but you can also use it to protect both you and your date from would-be attackers. In order to thwart an assailant with your spray, aim for the “T” (police officers are taught to imagine a “T” that crosses the eyes and descends to the nose and mouth); that’s your ideal target. The odds of terrible things happening on a date are actually pretty low — but when something as important as your personal safety becomes an issue, there’s nothing wrong with making those odds even smaller (and in your favor).

Date-worthy purse pick #7: Travel-sized tissues
Trust me on this: You should always carry a little mini-pack of tissues in your purse. You never know when you’re going to have to clean up a spill, blow your nose, use some of them as a substitute for toilet paper, dry your tears during a movie, blot your makeup, etc. Plus if your date needs a tissue, being able to supply him with one makes for a pretty sweet little gesture. Even more fun: Get a cute little pack of designer tissues and use them to break the ice. What man wouldn’t smile when he sees you pull out a tissue covered with hearts, flowers, cocktails or some other whimsical design that suits your personality? Tissues are practical, feminine and cute — so stop worrying you’ll look like a grandma and grab a pack (or two) to keep handy.

Date-worthy purse pick #8: Protection
“If you like him enough to stick around for a glass of wine, it’s possible you’ll like him even more by the end of the evening,” says Carol Queen, Ph.D., Staff Sexologist for Good Vibrations. “Women should always be ready with safer sex gear, just in case; this is not something to leave up to your date, since some guys do not think to carry protection at all times.” Condoms aren’t just a way to avoid getting pregnant or contracting HIV; there are many other sexually transmitted diseases that they can prevent or mitigate, and unprotected sex is the #1 cause of STD transmission between
Women should always be ready with safer sex gear, just in case.
partners. “One caveat, however: Don’t just throw a loose condom into the bottom of your purse where it can mingle with your keys, pens, and that one lost earring. A condom whose wrapper gets torn or pierced is no longer effective, so tuck it someplace safe,” warns Dr. Queen. “When I was dating, I got a cute, old-fashioned eyeglasses case and used it to carry my condoms and lube around. You can also buy condom holders that look just like compacts or small wallets, if you prefer.” Whether you’re just starting to date or are dating again post-divorce or widowhood, it’s important to remember that women and men of all ages and sexual orientations can contract STDs. Staying safe means carrying protection if there’s even a hint of a chance that you’re going to get intimate with your date.

Date-worthy purse pick #9: Spare undies
There’s nothing pleasant — or sanitary — about wearing yesterday’s underwear home the next morning. (Hello, bacteria!) “Whether your date ends with you on the sofa or some place a bit more interesting, have back-up bottoms on board,” advises Ali Cudby, author of Busted!: The FabFoundations Guide To Bras That Fit, Flatter and Feel Fantastic. “Stashing a thin thong in an envelope keeps things discreet and saves you from the humiliation of spilling your undies onto the table — which is definitely a dating don’t,” explains Cudby. For an even more discreet option, Cudby suggests trying Irely’s Sassy Squares, which are undies that fold down into a little pocket and have been printed with fun sayings, like: “If you obey all the rules, you’ll miss all the fun” (paraphrasing from Katharine Hepburn).

Date-worthy purse pick #10: Cash
Don’t leave home without it — money, that is. Not only is it good to have cash ready in case you want to politely offer to help your date pay for the dinner/drinks/tip/valet, but it’s also smart to have a tidy sum stashed away in case you find yourself in a situation where you need to get home in a cab or some other unexpected emergency. On that note, carrying at least one credit card and some form of ID is also a no-brainer for the same reasons stated above. And hey, in the off-chance that your date goes so well that you find yourselves headed to the airport and eloping to Tahiti together — stranger things have happened, you know — it definitely pays to be well-prepared!

Kimberly Dawn Neumann ( is a popular New York City-based freelance writer whose work has appeared in such publications as Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Redbook, Maxim and frequently online. A certified dating/relationship coach, she’s published two books: The Real Reasons Men Commit and Sex Comes First and is the founder of She’s fairly certain she’s carried everything except the kitchen sink in her purse on her dates.
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