Analyze Your Date’s Name In 5 Steps

According to one author, there’s a way to determine whether or not you’ll gel with someone using nothing but your names. Learn five of Neimology Science’s most basic compatibility assessment techniques below.

By Kimberly Dawn Neumann

“Hi, I’m Michelle.”
“Nice to meet you, I’m Jared.”

Is this a “letter perfect” match? Who knows for sure without being there and observing their in-person chemistry? Well, according to Sharón Lynn Wyeth, author of Know the Name, Know the Person: Decoding Letters to Reveal Secrets Hidden in Names, Michelle and Jared might gel — but the
Vowels are the key to your date’s emotions.
odds aren’t linguistically stacked in their favor. “That said, Harry and Sally should get along brilliantly on a first date… and each of them would know that if they knew Neimology™ Science,” says Wyeth, who developed this name-decoding system by matching letter patterns to different personality traits during her 18 years of research into the subject. Wyeth explains that each unique letter combination creates a vibrational frequency, and that frequency matches a specific behavior. With that in mind, we hit her up for a peek into what you can decipher while dating simply by analyzing the letters in your date’s name. For a more complete guide, you’ll want to refer to Wyeth’s book — but for now, check out these five steps in order to assess whether you might be a compatible match. It’s like learning your meet-and-greet A-B-C’s!

Step 1: Compare the vowels in your names to assess basic compatibility
Vowels are the key to your date’s emotions. They represent a person’s feelings and ways of relating to the world and other people. So, the first question to ask yourself when comparing your name with your date’s name should be: do you have similar vowels? Go through and see how many you two share in common, but don’t count the last letter in either name — even when it is a vowel, since that position has a different meaning. The more vowels you have in common, the easier it will be for you to “get” each other.

The first vowel in someone’s first name is the most important of all, as it determines a person’s overall communication style. “The ideal romantic match is to find someone with your same first vowel; however, that would be quite limiting,” says Wyeth, who offers that the next best thing is to find a person with a compatible vowel instead. The most compatible vowels are found in A-O-Y or E-I-U groups. For example, a person who has an A as the first vowel in his or her first name is most compatible with a date who also has an A, O or Y in the first vowel position. Likewise, a person with a first vowel of E, I or U is most compatible with someone who also has one of those letters in the first vowel position of his or her name.

There have been discussions for years over whether the mind or the heart should dominate when making romantic decisions. While it is easy to make such decisions when both the mind and heart agree, what happens when they don’t agree? People with the A-O-Y vowel combination are prone to be ruled by their heads and are more work-oriented compared to people with the vowels E-I-U, who tend to be ruled by their hearts or emotions and need to have time to play. For example: the first time you see someone during your day, greeting that person with “how are you?” is important to people whose first vowel belongs in the E-I-U group, because they’re more emotional; however, the same question is inconsequential to the A-O-Y people.

Vowels can also tell you how comfortable your date will be with public displays of affection. Before going in for a kiss or giving a friendly pat on the back, keep in mind that most people within the A-O-Y first vowel group will find this inappropriate, while the E-I-U people won’t give a second thought to PDA (unless other letters in their name constrict them from doing so).

Step 2: Look at certain consonant clusters for additional clues
Consonants represent attitudes and habits. So a baseline thing to remember is that the more consonants you and your date share in common, the more likely you are to see things in an analogous way and also share a few similar habits, too. However, you could also be too much alike — which could lead to getting on each other’s nerves, much like brothers and sisters do. What you really want are compatible consonants.

Even though there are literally hundreds of consonant combinations — all of which all have specific meanings — there are a few that you may want to know about immediately. The first one is the “ER” combination found in both first names (for example, Erin, Cheryl and Bert) and last names (i.e., Kramer, Miller and Ferguson). The “ER” combination particularly relates to sex and physical contact; therefore, people with an “ER” in their name also usually have strong opinions about physical touching and sexuality. They most likely will have taken an extreme position in regards to their own sex lives, choosing either to practice celibacy or make sexual encounters a top priority. When the “ER” sound is heard in a first name, this person has willingly chosen his or her views concerning sex and/or physical contact. If the “ER” sound is in found his or her last name, however, this person was likely taught to think of sex in one of these two extremes (i.e., an “all or nothing” mindset). Having a name with more than one “ER” combination implies obsessive thinking about sex and that this person might take his or her behaviors to an unhealthy level. These attitudes can manifest as either frigidity or prudishness on one side of this extreme or being a serial cheater or sex addict on
The “ER” combination particularly relates to sex and physical contact.
the other. Decide how important a sexual relationship is to you before dating someone with an “ER” name so that you already have your desires and/or boundaries firmly in place.

The second thing you might want to know about immediately concerns the “NAN” combination (found in names such as Nancy and Nanette), since these people love to spend other people’s money and not their own. This may or may not be important to you, but it’s still nice to know upfront.

Step 3: Add the number of letters in your respective names
Now, count the letters in your name and the number of letters in your date’s name. The person with the longer name will need more attention than the person with the shorter one. Why is that? Each letter represents both gifts and challenges that are unique to that individual. Thus, the longer the name, the more complicated the person is likely to be, since he or she will have more gifts to develop and challenges to overcome in life. Some give-and-take is required in any relationship, but if both people have names that are roughly the same number of letters, the exchange between both partners stays fairly well-balanced. However, if two people are dating and one person’s name is significantly longer than the other person’s, the partner with the lengthier name will need more attention in the relationship. This person can also give more to his or her partner without saying as much, so the person whose name has fewer letters in it doesn’t realize how much he or she is really receiving in overall balance of the relationship.

Feeling disappointed that your first name has eight letters but your date’s has only three? Know that the accuracy of this step is greater when you use your full names, so feel free to add up the total number of letters in your first, middle and last names to see if you can even things out. As a beginner in Neimology™ Science, it’s probably best to just use your first names for the other steps in this article and only use your full names for this particular step.

Step 4: Take note of the first letter in your date’s first name
The first letter of someone’s first name is the second-most important letter to analyze when deciphering a date’s personality traits because it acts as the “first impression” letter within the overall equation (the first vowel to appear is always the most important clue). In other words, the first letter is what you’ll notice about someone when you first meet each other. Alas, we don’t have room to go through all 26 letters here (especially since each letter has multiple meanings). But to give you an idea of how these first-letter impressions work, here are some quick examples:
  • Attracted to strong people with good leadership skills? Then you might want to date someone whose name begins with either a “C” or a “K.” Names that start with the letter “C” lead so that they might learn, while people whose names start with “K” are more likely to lead for the universal good.
  • If the intellectual type gets you going, look for someone whose name begins with a “J” (these individuals have intuitive knowledge, or “street smarts”), “S” (these people are well-educated, or “book smart”), or “W” (these folks hate making the same mistake twice, so they increase in wisdom with each new experience in life).
  • Drawn to those with plenty of drive and ambition to succeed in life? Choose a date whose name starts with the letter “B,” as they are competitive and want to get ahead. Or, pick a person with a “T” in the first-letter position, as these people love being on top. Be aware, though, that not all people with “T” names end up in their ultimate position, as they also tend to be “all-or-nothing” types (i.e., they’ll be at the top of ladder or on the bottom rung — but not likely to be found anywhere in the middle, so to speak).
Step 5: Let the last letter of your date’s first name make an impression
And finally, when you’re doing a quick name-compatibility scan, take a look at the last letter of the other person’s first name. It’s this letter that actually tends to indicate what kind of lasting impression a person leaves behind and can even determine how you might describe your date to a friend later on. Much like the first letter interpretations discussed in Step 4 above, there are many different possibilities for interpreting this last letter… but a few common examples to look at include “E,” “A” and “Y.” If found in the first name’s final position, the letter “E” tends to indicate someone who will frequently be late as he or she doesn’t manage time very well. So, if punctuality is important to you, this person may not be your match.

As for the letter “A,” you can think of this one as “amicable.” The letter “A” in the first name’s final spot means your date will probably be pleasant because this person thinks it’s important to be liked. Even so, this person won’t change his or her true character just to seem more likeable.

Notice how many names end in “Y” these days? People whose first names end with the letter “Y” are the dating world’s equivalent of the “universal blood donor,” because they really can get along with everyone when they choose to do so. They are the social chameleons of the human race and adapt well when put into virtually any situation (which means you’ll need to look at some of the other name-based characteristics and clues to see if you really match up beyond that first date with a “Y” person). But if you do score a date with someone sporting a “Y” at the end of his or her first name, the results will likely be, well…lovely!

So, now you’ve got some basic name-analyzing techniques down… but, much like the complex world of horoscopes, we’ve really just the touched tip of the Neimology™ Science iceberg. There are all kinds of other aspects come into play when measuring how well you and your date’s monikers mesh — some which you might wish to learn later on your own. But with a little practice, you can at least get a better sense of your date and if you should mind your Ps and Qs while analyzing your date’s A-E-I-O-Us!

Kimberly Dawn Neumann ( is a New York City-based freelance writer whose work has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Women’s Health, Marie Claire, Maxim and more. A frequent online contributor for’s Happen magazine, she’s also the author of The Real Reasons Men Commit and Sex Comes First as well as the founder of It would seem she’s a leader who wants to get along with everyone if she’s analyzing her name correctly...
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