Cheat Sheet For Guys

With so many other fellas registering each day, you’ve really got to make your profile stand out among the rest if you want to capture her heart.

By Elsa K. Simcik

ongratulations, you finally got with the rest of the world and joined an online dating site. Now it’s time to fill out your personal profile so your dream gal can contact you. Let’s start with the basics.

Are you ready for your close-up?
Photos are optional, but realistically, it’s a necessity. Post a photo. Ms. Right will think you’ve got something to hide if you’re
The headline is crucial and it really depends on the type of girl you’re looking for.
invisible. Here is a FAQ from a guy: “I have this really good picture of me with my hot next-door neighbor. Can I use that?”

When we see a photo of you with some other girl, it just looks like you’re making a desperate plea to say, “See? Other girls like to hang out with me. Even hot ones.” Keep your photos solo. Oh, and that goes for pictures of you with your beer-guzzling poker buddies.

Basically, your main photo should be a recent (no high school football shots) straight-on standard picture of you smiling. If you don’t have one, have a pal snap one. No need to hire a professional. And spare us your sexy look, refrain from winking or wearing sunglasses and please don’t use a picture of yourself on your cell phone!

Regular Superman looking for his Lois Lane
The headline is crucial and it really depends on the type of girl you’re looking for. For instance, if you want a quirky girl who’s also a Star Wars fan, you could get away with a line like, “May my force be with you.” But if you want to open your options up to a broader audience, you better get right to the point.

Tell them who you are and what you want: “Funny guy looking for outgoing girl.” And if
Your description should simply be positive and informative.
you actually are funny, go ahead and use a funny headline. If you’re not funny, now’s not the time to start. Your headline will be her first impression of you. And as the shampoo commercials say, you never get a second chance to make a first impression.

Name, rank, serial number
Your stats are a no-brainer. You can fill it out the same way you fill out forms at the doctor’s office. The only thing to watch out for is the “I’ll tell you later” option. There’s a time and a place for that line. For instance, it’s perfectly acceptable to not want to display your religion or income right there for the world to see. However, you gotta be upfront about your status: single, divorced, etc.

No woman’s gonna want to start chatting with a guy who says “I’ll tell you later” on his status. The same goes for children. If you write, “I’ll tell you later” for that line, all sorts of thoughts will run through her mind, such as, “Is he not sure if he has children, or does he have 20?”

The details
There’s a difference between confidence and cockiness. Confidence: “I love the outdoors and exercise, so I’m in great shape.” Cockiness: “I can bench 350 pounds 20 times. Let me bench you, too.” Your description should simply be positive and informative. No need to launch into your pet peeves right there like, “I hate minivans!” Come on, would you really turn away a beautiful, successful gal just because she drove a Voyager?

It may sound like lame and motherly advice, but when it comes to your profile, just be yourself. Tell it like it is and be grateful this isn’t a bar where you have to come up with pickup lines. You were never very good at that anyway.

Elsa K. Simcik is a freelance writer in Atlanta. Her work has appeared in newspapers and magazines including the Atlanta Journal-Constitution, the Dallas Morning News, Texas Parks and Wildlife Magazine and
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