or many of us, flirting with someone comes naturally. But for those who are naturally shy or unfamiliar with physical cues, confusion rules the day when it comes to flirting. We’ve come up with a top 10 to help ease you back into the game!
10. Flirting is an attitude
A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic and positive—it works!
|Remember, props are natural conversation starters: Dogs, an interesting book or newspaper, or unusual jewelry work..
9. Start a conversation
The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help or state an opinion.
8. Have fun
Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.
7. Use props
Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion, interesting ties, hats or an interesting book or newspaper.
6. Be the host
Change your behavior from guest to host. You are not a passive person waiting around for romance; instead, you’re the welcome committee.
5. Make the first move
Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello.
You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.
3. Eye contact
Make eye contact, but please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than a few seconds) and then glance away. Don’t stare—it’s a turn-off.
Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The “flirtee” will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment, the best response is a simple “Thank you!”
It’s contagious. Smiling makes you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You’ll be a people magnet.
Fran Greene is a nationally recognized expert on flirting, dating and relationships. Greene has appeared on Dateline NBC, The Today Show, and has been featured in the New York Times, Self, and Cosmopolitan.