Love - Are Your Stars Crossed?

Is your water sign dousing his fire? What to do if you and your sweetie are astrologically incompatible.

By Barrie Dolnick

erhaps you’ve heard that some signs of the zodiac are bad romantic connections for you… but you nevertheless find you’re totally attracted to them. What to do? Well, first, let me tell you, as an astro-coach and the author of over a dozen books, there’s no such thing as a completely bad, impossible, or doomed astrological match. That said, some signs can create more tempestuous or challenging matches than others… we spell them out here and offer some pointers to guide you through these dicier combinations. There’s nothing a little tolerance can’t fix!

If you find yourself mesmerized by a sensual water sign — Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces — or wowed by earth signs like spunky Virgos or high-profile Capricorns, turn down the flame so you don’t evaporate (or char) that passion.
You love kick-butt accomplishment, take-no-prisoners team work, and sizzlin’ flirtations.
These partners don’t think conflict
Pisces, be prepared to give your sweetie a lot of freedom.
is a sport. When in doubt, listen, soften and try a little Kumbaya. Or just tune out.

Your head could be turned by the charming air signs of Gemini, Libra, Aquarius and the shiny, fun-loving Sagittarian. Even a fellow earth sign, Virgo, could be irresistible but difficult.
You are sensual, cautious, stubborn and gorgeous.
These partners don’t value the art of doing nothing. Get yourself moving, voice your opinions, and pull the covers over your head and close your eyes (snoring noises optional) when you’re tired of conversation.

You will find almost anyone interesting—at first. You might be particularly distracted by the undeniable sensuality of earthy Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn, and the deeply provocative sexiness of Scorpio and Pisces.
You are curious, funny, witty and swift.
These partners are much more interested in security and status quo. To make a success of a relationship, stop talking and find the drama in the details.

It’s hard for you to resist the impulsive, devil-may-care energy of some fire signs (Aries, Sagittarius) and air signs (Gemini, Libra and Aquarius). They seem like they know what they’re doing and they really care about you, right?
You are a big bruisin’ bouncer to anyone who doesn’t rate 5 stars on your personal VIP list.
These partners define loyalty with a certain amount of freedom. Keep your relationship going with cozy nights in and looser nights out. And put away the lie detector (for now).

Your heart is big and can be lost to deeply loving Taurus, Pisces and Scorpio — you admire the dignity and accomplishment of Capricorn — and you could see yourself (what’s not to love?) in another Leo.
You need a certain amount of drama, your own spotlight, and top billing.
These partners might not find being your groupie so compelling. Be compassionate, attentive, and share center stage once in a while. And always thank your audience.

You take to complexity like a duck to water. If you’re intrigued by the passions of fire signs Aries and Sagittarius or lured into the airy intellectual atmospheres of Gemini, Libra or Sagittarius, you are somewhat typical for your sign.
You are exacting, inexhaustible,
Libra, can you pass all the tests your honey will put you through?
and infinitely informed.
These partners are self-motivated and preoccupied. If you can tolerate inefficiency and a distracted honey, you’ll have a great time. If you can’t, get out your worry beads.

You can make a partner out of anyone, but you may pick a sexy, complicated water sign (Cancer or Pisces) or a grounded, glamorous earth sign (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) and make your job a little harder.
You love harmony, beauty and long talks.
These partners like to play hard-to-get. You can pass the various tests they’ll put you through but it might get a bit tiresome. Just don’t cheat.

If you’re drawn to someone, you’re not going to rest until you’ve gotten what you want. You are passion personified so it’s hard to pass up the sizzle of fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) and the sauciness of airy Geminis and Aquarians.
You are focused, hot, and implacable.
These partners are like children who need to be amused. Smile while you charm them. Ultimately, your hand is quicker than their eyes. Keep learning new tricks.

As an adventurer and truth seeker, you’re bound to come across a yummy Taurus or Virgo and some mysterious water signs like Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces. You love to learn—but will you learn to love?
You are brutally honest and unapologetically passionate.
These partners are tenderhearted and spare with forgiveness. Can you work your way through to true love without tripping on a technicality? You’ll know when you get there.

You may be a realist but you’re not immune to romantic charms of dashing Aries or Leos or the sexy smarts of air signs Gemini, Libra or Aquarius. Hmm… how realistic is long-term love?
You love the chase and earning your first-place trophy.
These partners love the chase but don’t like losing. Keep your passion games playful, change the rules often enough to keep it interesting, and remember that being a winner means you’re still together.

If there’s any sign that enjoys going against what’s expected, it’s yours. So if you find yourself enthralled by earthy, grounded, practical Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn or enchanted by silent-but-deep Cancers or Scorpios, you’ll be in your rebellious comfort zone.
You are freedom-loving, offbeat, and ebullient.
These partners are cozy, nurturing and passionately sensual. If you remain captivated, you will have no problems. But you’ll have to settle down—or make it look like you have.

Your romantic depths allow you to love almost anyone—especially if there’s a complex problem you think you can solve. Magnetic fire signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) and pensive Geminis or Libras could turn your head.
You are romantic, possessive and bliss-seeking.
These partners are leash-resistant, flirtatious and love a good time. You have to give them a great deal of freedom or agree not to turn on the electronic fence before midnight.

Astro-coach Barrie Dolnick helps people find love and happiness by understanding their stars and their karmic energy. She is the author of twelve books, including Enlighten Up! and KarmaBabe.
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