The Best And Worst Of Summer Love

Our favorite — and not-so-favorite — things about romance during the hot season…

by Laura Gilbert

h, summer love. Songs have been sung and odes have been written to sultry hot-weather romance — and why not? On a starry summer night, everything seems a little sexier, a little more romantic. But it’s not all beach-blanket bingo and mojitos under the moonlight — there are some downsides, too. Here, the pros and cons of looking for love when the weather heats up.

Pro: It’s a great time to break out of a love rut…
Summer means more social outings, trips to distant (and not-so-distant) lands full of new people, and often a slowdown at work, all
Summer creates
lots of extra opportunities for flings.
of which make it prime time for trying out new things with new people. That adds up to lots of extra opportunities for flings that can break you out of bad romance patterns, distract you from an ugly breakup, snap you out of a dry spell or even turn into lasting love.

Con: …if you can work up the energy to leave your lounge chair
Sure, warmer weather puts people in better moods… up to a point. But then there are those summer days that get so sticky that you’re soaking wet ten minutes after you towel off. Tempers get short when the temperatures get high, and that means you’re more likely to snipe at others. Or maybe you just want to laze around the house instead of “doing” something. Even holding hands can feel to sticky and icky — so not a sexy sensation.

Pro: You can turn up the heat outside
Long days and longer weekends, coupled with warmer weather, mean more time to canoodle outdoors. You can actually get outside for all those weekend-warrior sports listed under “interests” in your online profile. And of course, the great outdoors is a great place to get romantic. “In summer, you can go hiking, make out under the trees, and snuggle in a remote cabin,” says Ben Friedman, 30, from Sicklerville, NJ.

Con: Travel plans collide
Summer is prime time for vacationing — unfortunately, you usually have to book flights months before you’ve even met your summer
Sure, warmer weather puts people in better moods… up to a point.
fling. That means that even if you meet a great mate, there’s a good chance at least one of you will be spending a week somewhere out of town — alone. “Every time I’ve met someone in the summer, I wind up only seeing them once every other week on Tuesdays,” says Ky Henderson 29, from Wauwatosa, WI. “It’s September before we finally get down to that summer lovin’ they sing about in Grease.”

Pro: Weddings, weddings, weddings
Summer is wedding season. And weddings are perfect for bringing a new date (one you might otherwise never get to check out in a tux or fancy dress), or scouting for one among the distant family and friends who converge on the reception.

Con: Weddings, weddings, weddings!
Let’s see…there’s the pressure to find a date. The risk of getting stuck at a “singles” table full of drunk cousins and teenagers. The nosy questions from friends and relatives wondering when you’re going to tie the knot. Need we say more?

Pro: All of the holidays, none of the guilt
“When you’re dating someone in the winter, it gets all stressful with where to spend the holidays, whether they should meet your family, and what to get them—it makes you get serious too fast,” says Anna Davis, 36, from Sausalito, CA. But when’s the last time you felt family pressure to spend Independence Day with your folks? Or had to worry about going overboard with a too-nice Labor Day gift for your sweetie? See what we mean? Summer can be perfect for having a new honey because you can just enjoy yourself. Which is the point of hot-weather romance after all.

Laura Gilbert is a free lance writer based in New York, She has contributed to Health, Stuff, Maxim and other publications.
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