I grew up in Southeast Asia, spent my most influential undergraduate years in Michigan, and now I'm happily nested in the Pacific Northwest. After spending way too long mistaking a career for a life, I realize I'm missing the most important thing in life - a companion. I currently have almost everything I need or want - a job I like, a house that's slowly undergoing a remodel, and living in one of the most beautiful places on earth - now I just want to find someone to share it all with.
I am a relatively quiet person. I listen well and I’m particularly good at seeing someone else’s point-of-view; understanding where they are coming from. I try to see the positive in any situation.
I like simplicity and am always trying to clean and streamline what I own and how I do things. Paradoxically, I sometimes buy too much stuff to try and simplify my life. I think I have too many electronic gadgets and too many containers.
As hectic as my work can be, I gravitate towards activities that are peaceful and calming. Nature soothes me and hiking is great relaxation. I love tropical beaches and recently came back from a trip to Hawaii which was a complete blast.
I picked up the courage to try out a few yoga classes and I could grow to like it. I do hit the gym frequently to keep my weight in check. I love food, but acknowledge that once past a certain age, wanton indulgence just cannot be the norm. So I'm on the constant search to find good healthy dishes to keep me going.
I like building stuff, even if I'm not particularly good at it. I tinker a lot. I never buy PCs, I always build my own. I’m a sporadic woodworker. I like using power tools, but honestly, I haven’t invested enough time to be really good at it. I just collect power tools. You should see my router, bench, and router tips. They’re pristine and barely used.
I am a fan of science fiction and fantasy, although it doesn't consume me as it once did. Big explosions in movies admittedly do attract me, but it's the smaller, quieter films that tend to linger longer - that is, once I get the motivation to actually watch one.
A relationship is a two way thing. I think the most important characteristic is that (a) she can live with my faults and that (b) I can live with hers. No one is perfect. I grew up in an Asian culture and the women in my family are strong women who have survived adversity, who are working career women, but traditional. I can't help but be influenced by them. I respect and am attracted to smart, witty women. A sense of humor compatible with mine goes a long way. A woman with a strong sense of identity and outside interests, who is also willing to make a relationship work - that's very attractive.