So I can now say I have given online dating a try. Although it was THE absolute worst social activity I've ever experienced, I also did not honestly project a lot of positive energy towards it. So of course I'm partially accountable for its demise! I found that its tough to project sincerity and even if I am being sincere either "she" doesn't think I am or because the pool is so big....I get beaten out! And hey, more power to you! Please DO find the best potential person for yourself. I heard this comedian say the other night that men are the absolute WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A WOMAN! Hahahaha!! It's true right?
If you really think about it, we ARE (rape,heartbreak,physical/verbal abuse,bad behavior in a close setting etc) so definitely choose the best man possible and most of the time your first instinct is the best one even though it doesnt always end up as the smartest one :) hahaha!
I read a lot about what everyone is looking for.....trust,loyalty,long term relationship, marriage, vacationing with her man etc, etc....and I completely and totally agree and totally with that....i'm looking for the same!!! But my question to you is what are you looking for in the beginning?? You can't establish that high level of compatibility within the first two emails and/or if you only text. Men can be (key words. . . "can be" haha) human too and we thrive off interest,motivation,positive feedback,compliments and basic 50/50 stuff that naturally makes all humans feel better about themselves makes us feel good too. :)
So please don't "wink" or "like a photo" if you are not actually interested in chatting and/or meeting up and possibly progressing to calling and leaving casual confident voicemails or barrowing my sweater type of level....and If you just want to email, wink but then don't respond to a "hello how are you?" email reply, text once and then ignore my reply then its not worth it for either one of us!!! Seriously. If you're talking and/or dating THAT many guys then is rather pass even though you are probably a catch!
I am normally a pretty open guy but this online dating thing has completely open my eyes to what can present itself when tapping into the dating world of the general public. My uncle met his wife via online dating and they're having twins this year, so I have levels of optimism, I swear!! :))
I'm on my last month (finally) and If you really think we can connect and you have a genuine interest towards meeting some"one", not some people then let me know :) I know match wants us to meet a multitude of people, but I don't think I get paid enough to date 3 or 4 women at the same time :)) seriously ! :) LOL!
I moved here from NY last June, but I have barely been out and have not explored SF as of yet. Thank goodness I love my job and I love to work, but I'm hopeful I can explore this city with a friend/girlfriend at some point soon. I try and lead by example, but I can't have perfect timing with perfect words and act perfectly with everything. Can you allow for mistakes? :)
I'm of the opinion that if I were to ever get a compliment about what I look like,it really belongs to my Mom and my Dad! other than that, what else are we responsible for besides our character and personality, but of course how can you show that via online dating?!?! It's all about the next one and the next one etc, etc. Even if my contract expires and I end up with zero, we can learn from the good and the bad :)
Best of luck to all those that deserve someone great! (And you know not everyone deserves someone great! LOL!)