The less said, the better. I'm looking for a lover. Long term, preferably, but it doesn't have to be exclusive if you don't wish it to be. In this lifetime, the only thing you will ever own outright is your own self. I have several different dynamics with others (though none of them physical) and consider myself to be my own best friend. I am hoping to meet someone who understands and accepts this.
I'm looking for chemistry first, friendship second. I have a lifetime to get to know someone and therein lies the fun. But you can't force or fake chemistry. Not so much interested in the 'nice guy' as much as someone courageous, slightly arrogant and willing to stand up for himself even if that means challenging my own personal beliefs. I assure you, I won't wither and die if you disagree with me, I won't hold it against you if you don't hold the door for me, I will pay for your dinner as much as you pay for mine. In short, I want an equal.
I'm online infrequently so I want a relationship that goes beyond texts and instant messaging. I want to know you in real life, I want to hear your voice, see your face, be able to interact with you physically. I want to see you in your element, know what you know, experience life through your eyes and share the same with you. Online is a starting point, there is much yet to do in the real world.