I'm pretty laid back as a general rule...a writer, artist, and psychology student (yes, at my age). I've got two awesome kiddos (7 & 10) that are my world, and they will always be my first and strongest loves.
I have settled for "Ms. Right Now" way too many times in my life, and I'm done with walking that disappointing journey. Life is too short to spend it in a relationship that does not fulfill you and make you come alive. Thankfully I am secure enough in myself to be completely fine with being alone, and for that to be preferable to being in the wrong relationship.
And I've lived long enough to know that faerytale/movie romance is nothing but pretty fiction - real love, real relationships take time to build and work to maintain, and effort on both partners' parts. I do not believe in the whole "u-haul" mentality, so if you're looking for an insta-relationship, I'm not your girl.
Giving to my partner - gifts of caring, listening, feeding, loving, supporting, encouraging - these are the things that make me whole. But only when they are given in return.
What I want in a woman is simple...I want someone to walk beside me through life...to stand with me against anything that may come our way...offering her strength when mine is waning, and accepting my offering of the same when her own resolve begins to crumble.
No relationship is ever truly 50/50, nor is it 100/100. It must always equal 100%, true, but the scales will tip with a constant fluidity...today I give 70 to your 30, but tomorrow I may need 60 from you and can only give 40. The tide of life-long love is ever-changing, ever-shifting. But at the end of the day, what matters is that we have worked together to move through the world, and we have each other to rest in - a safe haven amid all the chaos.
Now that all that mushy, serious stuff is out of the way...LOL!
I do take love and relationships very seriously, but I have a very pronounced humorous streak, as well. Sarcasm is my native tongue, so if you don't speak it, we may have a problem. Laughter is good for the spirit, and I prefer to be near those who make me laugh (even if the jokes are warped. Okay...especially when they're warped).
Let's see...what else? I change my hair constantly (as you can see from my photos), & anyone who dates me must possess the ability to say, "Oh, your hair looks awesome, baby!" - even if I screwed up while stripping it and have begun to resemble Carrot Top with a bad, striped bleach job. This is a deal breaker. Also, if I am in my house, and there is no party going on or whatever, I am in pajama pants. Period. Usually without a bra. In fact, if it is a party with my closest friends, they're likely to be in pj pants and swinging free, as well - so be prepared. I like to be comfortable, and this is non-negotiable. I will have an extra pair of pants on hand for you, and a location where you can stash your bra, too, so don't feel left out. You're welcome.
Let's see...what else...what else...?
My ideal evening involves relaxing on the couch, either watching dork TV shows and having deep discussions on the subject matter; having said kinds of discussions over coffee somewhere; or just sitting around with friends enjoying a glass of wine and a laugh.
Deep, intellectual conversation is one of the biggest turn-ons for me, as I find the brain/mind the absolute sexiest thing about a woman, hands-down. An interest in politics and current world events is a plus as well, as I find that always seems to enhance the conversation.
Okay, so I think I've done enough rambling for now. You guys get the picture. LOL! Thanks for stopping by!