Air Force Officer, Harvard Grad, Gymnast, Stand-Up Comic: These are roles that show what matters most to me - "service before self" in the Officer Corps, investing in continual learning w Harvard, maintaining an active lifestyle starting w physical fitness - having the right attitude about life. This starts w knowing my own strengths - weaknesses (poking fun at them) - being able to lift anyone's spirits. I have a big multi-generation familyresembling 'Family Ties' - everyone helps out. You can tell if someone 'decided' to make a daily investment in their friends, their family and community. One activity I enjoy built on this is Air Force leadership development where I serve as the president of my 822 member officer class and train Dr Stephen Covey's "7 Habits" (It's a great book!) - all key to building a personal relationship, a family and community today. My next step after completing active duty is a management PhD in Leadership Development to build leadership dev programs for the Air Force, Rotary and companies.
Bessie Stanley's 100 year-old poem "Success" says it best: "He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who has never lacked appreciation of earth's beauty or failed to express it; who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose memory a benediction."
I have been on active duty these past two years on current ops outside the US by flying 'remote piloted' reconnaissance missions - and I am now in Washington DC and London working a US-British military coordination assignment.
The movie "Princess Bride" sums up my dream. I'd search the ends of the earth for that. I'll always believe it's possible to be hopelessly in love with someone your whole life - to have a relationship that alive, that 'has a pulse'. It means 'being on the same page' - having an ability to step outside of self interest and see the mutual needs to 'nourish' to grow a relationship. It means being able to find creative ways to express love daily. I also believe the healthiest relationships have 'balance' - both are active in all dimensions of the relationship (I wouldnt believe in one doing the parenting and the other bringing in the income).
Open communication is crucial - you bring out the best in the other person - there's no fear or embarrassment about being honest when you've messed up. Strong communication skills are essential (I'm a big fan of Phil McGraw, John Gray, and Andrew Christensen's books). The relationship has integrity - and you accept the 'whole' person (we're all works in progress). I know 'integrity' from the year of interviews, physicals, tests, more tests, background checks to get my security clearances (hopefully that's reassurance enough that I'll bring a high level of integrity to the most important personal relationship in my life). A great relationship also means the ability to make short term sacrifices for the long term benefit of the relationship (I've jumped through hoops to complete my officer commission and would put the same effort into backing up my significant other if she needed to get a professional certification to reach an important career milestone).
Would love a girl who's selfless and self confident - into personal fitness, spiritual fitness, and learning new skills. Multifaceted (not all work, not all play). Motivated to continually grow, learn, and realize her potential but also able to kick back and relax. I love someone who also likes to be in motion and be on their feet too (from dance to getting away somewhere exotic). I've lived and worked overseas 4 years and would explore the world with you!