12/31/12 Last day of the year... so much to look forward to and towards as well. Why am I here, putting myself out there? The obvious is to meet men I may share a spark with but there is more. I think it is practicing with email notes; of how far I've come along when it comes to being clear of what I seek. Also I have set boundaries & upheld my personal policies. I won't give out my number just to anyone regardless of them offering their own for texting purposes, with the intention to "get to know you better". I don't see how short, little telegrams sent to my phone, with abbreviations of "lol", "smh", "fml" and "wtf"; are an adequate way to get to know me.
My name is Gina, I'm a single mother of two but my children don't live with me. I live in the East Los Angeles area, Boyle Heights actually; & as much as I would like to debate this, my children live in a safer area with less gangs & drug dealers. They also are in a school district that is better than LAUSD. What this means is, I have a flexible schedule & don't need a baby sitter. This also means the men that want to enter a long and steady courtship with me, would need to be great with kids & want them in their lives. I rather date a fellow single parent but it isn't a must. However I must be upfront. I don't think it's in me to have another child. This one would need to be discussed at the right time but I know I do have it in me to fall in love with the children of the man that touched my heart in return.
I was married before so I have spouse training & the truth is my aim is to become one again to the right man that showed he could and wants to become the love of my life. I want to be married at least for 50 yrs. First thing though is I want to be one lucky guy’s girlfriend but lets get through the preliminaries first. With that said, I want to meet a man that becomes my best friend. The one I trust to be most vulnerable with but also makes me laugh & I can be silly with.
I bought in to the "Rockabilly Retirement Plan for Goths, Skins and Punks" because the lyrics to songs are funnier & I enjoy the pageantry. I like other music genres but for the most part it isn't what is popular and mainstream. I can be happy listening to Perry Como as I would be with Koffin Kats. I do still pull a ‘Johnny Cash’ with my outfits which is the reason I have color inked in to my skin & plan to have full sleeves, my chest & back covered. If this is attractive, great! I would like though to be 'birds of a feather' so maybe there is another grown up rocker on here that will sit in the chair after ladies first; that I can go to shows with & clubs with.
I'm mellow with my activities but I do like to horse around & be dorks with my friends. It's rare when I watch TV but I do love watching movies, especially old, classic B&W, but comedies are my favorite. I also enjoy documentaries. I'm up to try new things like being shown how to play football & how to swim. I would like a cooking buddy that likes to explore ethnic markets & perhaps create a fusion of sorts.
This one is very important for me. I must be attracted physically & feel safe so I can let go of inhibition. I seek the sensual & erotic. Thought provoking intimacies with the old butterflies fluttering inside of me is my ideal. I also want to pair up with someone that isn't shy with affection in public.
Some of the traits I search for in a man are: He's trust worthy, can express himself be it through speaking, writing or singing if he must (the last one would be nice actually). Isn't so set in his ways that he refuses to experiment or try new approaches. Someone that isn't insecure. Shy at first is fine. Can be whimsical. Chivalry is not dead with him or the desire to keep learning. He cares about our country & supports our troops. Fights fair, is morally supportive as I would be for him. Is tender, gentle & kind.
So yeah…
