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40 year old man
Chicago, Illinois, United States

Seeking:
women 25-40
Within:
30 Miles of Chicago, Illinois, United States
Relationship:
Never Married
Have kids:
No
Want kids:
Definitely
Ethnicity:
White / Caucasian
Body type:
Athletic and toned
Height:
6'0" (182cms)
Faith:
Christian / Catholic
Smoke:
No Way
Drink:
Regularly

 

ABOUT HIM & WHO HE'S LOOKING FOR

Buy me a drink - I'm new in town! Then let me buy you one while you tell me what you love about Chicago.

I'm an engineer and I just started a new job in the Loop in January. I'm in the process of buying a condo in Lakeview. I think I’m a catch but I don't date as much as I'd like because I don't meet a lot of single women (why I’m here, of course) and I'm selective with the ones I do meet. Here’s an observation I've made about guys: the male traits that are the most desirable to women – good looks and confidence – often go hand in hand with arrogance, insensitivity, and generally being a jerk. And guess who he hides this from the longest... that’s right, the woman he’s trying to impress. While I definitely don’t consider myself god’s gift to women, I’m here to tell you that there really are guys out there who are confident and decent looking (…smart, well-groomed, aren’t stinky, have excellent credit, are pretty good at table tennis… ) and also know how to treat people. I put myself in that category, and I think anyone who knows me well would agree. Even ex-girlfriends, believe it or not.

What I’m looking for in a woman is easy to describe but surprisingly hard to find: a good combination of intelligent, attractive, and fun. Admittedly those are all subjective qualities and maybe my standards are too high for one or more and that's why I'm still single. But I don’t think I should, or even could lower my standards just because I haven’t found the right woman yet.

Ideally she’ll be a thinker. Someone who will challenge me. And like me an empathetic person who will sense my feelings and try to please me, but at the same time won’t be shy with her own desires. How can I dote on you if I don’t know what you want? (Believe it or not this has actually been a problem for me before. It’s at the same time frustrating and endearing, which of course makes it even more frustrating.)

You might think I look great on paper (or on screen, rather) and write a mean e-mail and I probably feel the same about you. But let’s not get too excited just yet. We don’t know squat till we talk face to face. So let’s not over-think it and just meet for a drink.

A little about my age and yours: I still haven't given up on having kids, but I refuse to do so under less than ideal circumstances, i.e. being pressured by a woman I don't know well enough. Therefore, I'm looking for a woman younger than me. Maybe you feel that makes me unrealistic or just plain creepy. That's your prerogative, but at least you know my reasoning. As for what my age means to you, I'm acutely aware that now that I'm 40 I've fallen out of many women's ranges of consideration, regardless of anything I say or do. Frankly, I think this is unfortunate for both of us, because had we met face to face I'm guessing my age wouldn't be an issue for many of them. (What can I say? I've been lucky.) And while this is really frustrating, of course I'm aware of the double standard - I just explained I'm doing the same thing, though for different reasons - so just feeling that frustration also makes me feel a jerk. But whatcha gonna do, right? That's life.

Finally, I humbly request you try to use a little integrity on this site. Don't express interest if you don't fully intend to follow it up to its logical conclusion - meeting in person. (Short of him doing something offensive or repulsive, of course.) I'm not saying I expect you to meet me immediately. I'm saying don't write a couple e-mails then just stop with no explanation. And for the love of god don't make a date unless you plan to keep it. What kind of person does that? Oh I know, there are lots of guys out there doing crappy things too. But I'm not one of them, and I never assume a woman is until it happens. It never ceases to amaze and disappoint me how few people behave with actual integrity, i.e. doing the right thing rather than the easy one.

Interests:
Book club, Camping, Coffee and conversation, Cooking, Dining out, Movies/Videos, Museums and art, Music and concerts, Exploring new areas, Nightclubs/Dancing, Performing arts, Playing cards, Playing sports, Travel/Sightseeing, Volunteering, Watching sports, Wine tasting
Sports & exercise:
Bowling, Golf, Dancing, Running, Skiing, Swimming, Walking / Hiking, Weights / Machines, Other types of exercise, Hockey
Exercise habits:
I exercise 3-4 times per week
Pets:
Political views:
Middle of the Road
Sign:
Don't display my sign
College:
Purdue University, West Lafayette, IN
For fun:

I play ice hockey and golf, work out regularly, and spend time with my family. I'm a big music lover - I buy a lot of CDs (yes, still) and go to concerts regularly. Also, I don't do it often, but I like to dance. And that's not a line.

Favorite hot spots:

When it comes to food, places, travel, and most things I feel that variety is the spice of life. I’d be bored by a woman who wants me to take her to Applebee’s every week. Think sushi, Thai, Cajun… and the next interesting thing that pops up.

Favorite things:

Whiskers on roses and raindrops on kittens. Oh, and soup.

Last read:

Finished the Game of Thrones books much sooner than I expected, so now I'm reading various filler novels waiting for Winds of Winter. Who knew 5,000 pages would go by so quickly? Come on Martin, write like the wind!

ABOUT... HIM HIS DATE
APPEARANCE:
Height:
6'0" (182cms)
4'10" (147cms) to 5'8" (172cms)
Body type:
Athletic and toned
Slender, Athletic and toned
Eyes:
Hazel
No preference
Hair:
Dark brown
No preference
   
LIFESTYLE:
Smoke:
No Way
No Way, Occasionally, Yes, but trying to quit
Drink:
Regularly
No preference
Occupation:
Technical / Science / Computers / Engineering
No preference

I'm a structural engineer. I work with architects to design buildings.

Income:
$100,001 to $150,000
No preference
Relationship:
Never Married
Never Married, Widow / Widower, Divorced
Have kids:
No
No
Want kids:
Definitely
Definitely, Someday, Not sure
   
BACKGROUND/VALUES:
Ethnicity:
White / Caucasian
Asian, East Indian, Latino / Hispanic, Middle Eastern, Native American, Pacific Islander, White / Caucasian, Other
Faith:
Christian / Catholic
No preference
Languages:
English
English
Education:
Bachelors degree
Some college, Associates degree, Bachelors degree, Graduate degree, PhD / Post Doctoral

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