I believe that every life contains a few pivotal moments, moments which radically delimit our possibilities. It is what Frost teaches us in his famous dilemma: two roads diverge in a wood and only one path may be taken; the other must be left behind. I can identify several such points in my life, some which I recognized at the time and others which are only recognized in hindsight. I joined this site on a whim, and I am curious to see if it could lead to one of those moments.
I suppose I should say something about myself. I am slow to make friends, but I make them forever. I tend towards reticence around strangers. I am very emotionally steady; I rarely experience intense emotional swings, although I have a select few things about which I feel very deeply and passionately. One cannot have many true friends nor truly commit to many passions (due to finite time and energy), thus I prefer a few deep relationships and passions to many and variegated ones. I am extroverted in that I get my energy from having people around me, but I am not especially outgoing around strangers. I prefer plans to anarchy, and I have a burning desire to understand everything around me. I teach while working on my PhD, and I have, ever since I was a small child, loved to tell people things. I tend to talk with my hands, and when I become excited my gestures and speed of speech increase. I have been told I have voice modulation problems. I over-analyze everything. I am really bad with directions and have often been told I have little common sense. I am very close to my family. I love animals, especially dogs. I enjoy playing most sports, particularly volleyball, however my greatest natural talent is in ping pong (yeah, I wish it could have been in something more mainstream too). I grew up in the Midwest, lived in San Diego for 5 years and have lived in NY for 3 years. My family is devoutly Protestant, and while I would likely not characterize myself as Protestant since I do not really practice anything, I still retain a fair amount of that moral background from my upbringing.
I spend most of my time reading and thinking, although I love deep, philosophical conversations. I go to the symphony on occasion, and I try to spend some time in the art museums whenever I can. I do like going out, but I am a terrible dancer until I have had a couple of drinks, then I think I am a great dancer (although there may be some photographic evidence to the contrary somewhere).
I am primarily looking for a serious relationship, I have never been particularly good at ill-defined, ambiguous relationships. I want someone who shares my interests and is interested in exploring the city and life together. I tend to like intelligent, upbeat, vivacious people. If you think you are a match, let me know!