I would like to share one of my favorite quotes:
A Short Guide to a Happy Life --Quindlen
"Life is short. Knowledge of our own mortality is the greatest gift God ever gives us. It is so easy to waste our lives: our days, our hours, our minutes. It is so easy to take for granted the pale new growth on an evergreen, the color of our kid’s eyes, the way the melody in a symphony rises and falls and disappears and rises again. It is so easy to exist instead of live. Unless you know there is a clock ticking. So many of us changed our lives when we heard a biological clock and decided to have kids. But that sound is a murmur compared to the tolling of mortality.
Life is made of small component parts: the snowdrops; the daffodils; the feeling of our children sitting close besides us; fettuccine Alfredo; fudge. Life is made up of moments, small prices of glittering mica in a long stretch of gray cement. It would be wonderful if they came to us unsummoned, but particularly in lives as busy as the ones most of us lead now, that won’t happen. We have to tach ourselves how to make room for them, to love them, and to live, really live.
We have to teach ourselves to get a life. A real life, not a manic pursuit of the next promotion, the bigger paycheck, the larger house. Would we care so very much about those things if we got really sick?
Let’s get a real life in which we are not alone. Find people we love, and who love us. And remember that love is not leisure, it is work. Each time I look at my diplomas, I remember that I am still a student, still learning every day how to be human. Let’s send an e-mail. Write a letter. Kiss our moms. Hug our dads.
Let’s get a life in which we are generous. Let’s look around at the azaleas making fuchsia star burst in spring; let’s look at a fool moon hanging silver in a black sky on a cold night. And realize that life is glorious, and that we have no business taking it for granted. Let’s care so deeply about its goodness that we want to spread it around. Let’s make sure our family and friends know who much we appreciate them while they are still alive. Let’s work in a soup kitchen or tutor a seventh-grader. All of us want to do well. But if we do not do good, too, then doing well will never be enough."
I will like to share my time with someone who is fun and attractive (to me) and who has a connection with his family or a strong sense of what that means. He must be honest and confident in himself and know what he wants.