Me: The Basics
A California girl at heart. I've lived all over the West Coast and Hawaii, but Seattle is home for the foreseeable future. The spicier the food the better. The sunnier the day the better. I love the beach, lakes, sledding, sports events, ferry rides, exploring new towns, hitting golf balls (I need lessons), boating, day hikes, kayaking in warm water and drinking on patios. That's my idea of being "outdoorsy". If you see me in REI you'll know I'm very lost. I'm a kid at heart. The ASPCA commercials make me cry every time. I have a serious fear of clowns (no joke). If you look like a clown I'll scream and run. I am an excellent negotiator. Very rarely does it have to be exactly my way. I can apologize first. It's more important for me to be happy than to be right (even though I am probably right). I love to take care of the people I care about in every way possible. I'm very sensitive and empathetic, but I have a very low tolerance for passive men. I was raised with "expect better" standards. I give that. I expect that in return. I do not find facial hair attractive. Full beards and goatees turn me off. (especially on women). I'm independent, but I have surprisingly traditional values. I'm actually not that difficult. I'm fairly straight forward, smart, sassy, giving and loving. I just want to meet someone that is confident enough to take this on. I dare you! ;)
I can fix my own problems, run my own life and take my own advice (I give great advice all the time). I have my time with my daughter that is family oriented and then I have my single time. I do have a pretty great lifestyle, but lately I've wanted to share that with someone I enjoy on a deeper level. That's going to be one lucky (beardless) man too. I love spending time with me. At this stage of my life I don't feel the pressure to get married in a rush and I don't care to push anything.
I want to be with someone that I not only really lust, but I also really like (usually its one or the other). I don't chase after men, if he tries to play games I'll just walk away. Hate the player and the game. As I said I'm forced to be independent, so when a man takes charge it's a refreshing change. Someone who is my equal. He can't be negative or judgmental. Overly sarcastic in a negative way is a turn off. Understands honesty and tact. His ego is in check. He believes in random kindness and can put up or shut up in that area. Obviously I don't hold back, neither can he. Priorities are in line with what they say they are and I am high on that list. I haven't taken someone home to meet my parents in forever. I'd like to date someone bright, charming, socially competent and obviously crazy about me that I wouldn't hesitate to let him meet them. That's the bar I'll measure you by. I don't mind if he is a mountain man and likes to fish and camp, but I'm not really interested in being a buddy on those adventures. Just come back clean and tell me funny stories. I'd like to meet someone who knows who they are and what they want by this stage of their life.