Just celebrated my first full year in Miami. Yeah! Looking for a guy (dating to LTR) that agrees with the idea that the best gay relationship is like two best friends that just happen to be attracted to one another sexually and have no problem expressing this affection openly. As with any best friend there should be little to no formality. We should be completely open and honest with one another. No hidden secrets. What would be the point? Attracted to a guy across the street? Okay, tell me about it. I might agree. Had a drug problem in the 90s, HIV , abused as a kid? I didn't personally experience these things myself, but as your best buddy, there should be no limits to what I am willing and able to understand and love about you. You might LOVE football, I don't, but does that really matter? I LOVE fashion, but maybe you don't. Who cares. Its not about liking the same exact things. Its about finding those differences endearing and interesting. Its about laughing at ourselves and one another and keeping each other grounded. All the while we share unconditional acceptance of one another. That's what a best friend is for. Right? What we do share is a similar set of values regarding the importance of honesty, integrity, loyalty, responsibility, humor, self-respect, and respect of our surrounding community and fellow man. We see ourselves and our friends as "good people". The kind of people that want to make the world a better place. Not add to its misery.
I'll just put this out there. I've tried Match off and on for the past 5 years. In that time I have met some incredible guys, but none of those connections turned into an actual relationship. Ironically, I have had better luck creating lasting relationships and have developed some really great lasting buddy relationships through Grindr and Manhunt. Haha. Who knew. I wonder why that is? I'm beginning to think maybe its because guys come to Grindr with few expectations other than a chance to "hook up"... so when you find a guy that you actually like beyond sex, its an unexpected bonus. Maybe we come to Match with too many expectations... some sort of fairy-tale vision in our heads. Hmmm. Not sure. But I just find it ironic that hook-up apps turn up longer lasting relationships than an actual relationship site. Am I the only one having this experience here? Maybe it means only sluts really like me? Haha. Who knows.