I'm a self aware and confident man who is hard working but also knows how to have fun. I have a positive outlook on life, a great personality who is fun to be around. I'm not boring and I can be romantic, sweet and very thoughtful. I have great ideas for fun dates and adventures but I can also stay home and hang on the couch, listen and talk too! I have to warn you that I am professional snuggler(not smuggler for those who just double taked) so be ready for that if we reach that point. I'm looking for someone who challenges me but also cares about me, who is fun and understands we all have pasts! I am a backyard legend at wiffelball, no one can hit my pitches(this also applies to horseshoes and bocce ball) which is a huge coup for you at BBQ's and family parties. I can funnel 2 beers, do a shotgun, trade shot for shot if that's the scene or I can also sit and enjoy a great bottle of wine over a fantastic dinner at one of my many dinner out places. Which brings me to a big postive of me, I love to meet families and go to meet people who are special to my partner, I have no fear of meeting the family/friends or new people. I have hit my "lows" in life and I am enjoying how my course is on the way,way up. The man I have become today is the man I always wanted to be. I feel I have a focused plan for my life and I am a very driven and determined person. In my career life I am excited about starting my new career in a Union in Manhattan that I will begin on or around September of 2013, my current position as a waiter for a hot spot in Montclair, NJ is a passion of mine that I enjoy doing but also affords me the ability to have a comfortable lifestyle. Meeting people every night and helping them to have a great time gives me such great instant gratification(I have been told I am an amazing waiter :) I can see myself working both jobs a for a little while but only sparingly in the long run.I enjoy skiing but have not been able to go that much lately and I take a trip out to South Bend each year to see my Fighting Irish play football. The trip is a blast(and at least you can pretend your having fun if you decide to venture out with me, lol) but I assure it is a blast! I am a multitasker who uses his time well, so I can enjoy life to its fullest. I'm a proud, loving father to my 2 beautiful daughters Ava and Hannah. No crazy ex-wife to worry about with me, we have an amicable relationship and put our children first! Cling Ons need not apply! Lastly I love to workout and eat healtly(most of the time), I would put most 20yrs olds to shame.....and have! I have run a few marathons and I am now into a high energy circuit style workout that keeps me lean but not mean and fits my high energy attitude and personality!