While I’m a woman of the west, I love being in the West Village, thrilled that I can have both in my life. I just finished my first book, and ready to partner, as writing this book meant a lot of travel and solo holed-up time in far-reaching places like Patagonia, London, tiny surf breaks, even a yurt in the Tetons. I just have known the right person would show up after that huge undertaking was done.
I’ve lived all over the map, so you can drop me just about anywhere and I’ll have a great time. But largely my time has been spent in California (born and raised), Central and South America, Wyoming, Seattle, Boulder, here, some Europe. Like that. I’ve had a varied professional background that led me to becoming a full-time writer: graduate school in international relations, NPR, freelance radio reporter, NOLS mountain instructor, Doula, Classical acupuncturist in private practice, and for quite a while now, a full time writer. And I treasure the incredible friends in my life I have gathered along the way.
I have a tremendous amount of energy and appetite for life and am comfortable in my own skin, laugh a lot and feel blessed that my work life is an extension of my personal life. And I imagine that my mate feels similarly. I know what I'm looking for --not in a neurotic checklist sort of way, but in a felt sense. I’ve spent a lot of time developing my own emotional literacy and prioritize that in my mate: a mutual capacity and desire for vulnerability without needing to be rescued or doing the rescuing.
I am creatively inclined, but don't necessarily need you to be. I imagine you as curious, intelligent, genuine, humble and ambitious. But you understand how life is enriched with a fellow traveler at your side and companion to witness and support your shared and mutual goals as well as my own.
I have the financial solvency and ability to use it toward the quality and adventure of my life and would like my mate to have the same. While you love the stimulation of the city, you value a varied lifestyle. And say, the idea of a beach house or a straw bale house or a really big garden might have its appeal to you also. As for your work, whatever it is, you are good at it. There are lots of great people out there, but I’m up for that deep connection that's in part instant, in part learned over time, with shared experience in one another's company.
I'm athletic, always up for something new. I imagine you are pretty darn active too. While you may not have spent time in the backcountry or taken a tumble in the whitewash on your long board, you are game to try. But if you already love to surf, let's go! But not just my interests, I'm open to what you’re into. I like being a beginner. That's part of the fun. You like that I know how to drive a tractor, secure our luggage to the roof of the car, but you might insist on carrying mine anyway.
Family is important to you, not just the one you were born into but the one that you have made with meaningful relationships along the way. You want kids and are thrilled I’ve frozen my eggs as a conservative backup plan (They are bicoastal also. They live in Boston and L.A. in a little boutique-egg hotel). On that note, I’m 42, but since my eggs are kicking it on ice, (and a big reason that men screen for age in women is for family-having potential, often assuming women are panicking to have kids before 40) and seeing mine are 36, well, it seemed relevant to account for that by lowering my age for search purposes. I’m in a unique situation, and Match doesn’t have a box for that so, for me it’s about trying to accurately describe myself, not misrepresent myself.
Kudos to you for getting to the bottom of this behemoth!
