Do I really, truly need to explain that my headline is a joke? Seriously? I thought it was kind of funny :)This is the part I always dislike the most because I dislike arrogance and like to think I'm a rather humble and unassuming man. To me this all seems like self-promotion, because in a way it needs to be. How do I tell you what I believe are my best qualities without sounding as if I'm attempting to "sell" myself? I find humility a far more admirable and desirable trait than arrogance. Finding the line separating confidence from arrogance is sometimes difficult, and the line between them can be so fine at times that it is easy to cross without even realizing it.
People who know be best would say that I can be a contradiction in some ways, because my traits seem to be at both ends at the same time. For example, I can be very firm and defend a position I am passionate about with the greatest ardency, yet also open minded and can readily accept other perspectives when I am convinced I should see things in another light. I am not averse to admitting when I make a mistake and offering an apology, as this is NOT a weakness. I like to think this complexity, or diversity, is what makes me interesting. I do have rather eclectic tastes, interests and desires, but once you get to know me it won't seem so complicated. I can be intense and analytical, but relaxed and happy-go-lucky. I can plan for everything down to every detail, because I don't enjoy being caught off-guard, but I am also very spontaneous and love surprises (the enjoyable variety, of course) and can even be impulsive at times.I also have very strong ideas regarding right and wrong, making the best choices, doing right by others before you do for yourself, and be devoted and committed. These are non-negotiable, as are honesty and fidelity.
I want to see the world, and have traveled extensively, but love my home and find comfort and refuge there. I am mature, confident, stable and grounded, but I love taking a cruise and doing nothing, or spending a day at Disneyland rediscovering the little boy in me. I think you get the idea regarding my "complexities".
I'm up for doing anything that doesn't land me in the morgue or prison, and I'm always interested in a new adventure. However, I'm not a real fan of doing them alone, so I'm anxious to find a travel companion, partner in crime type to join me and sit back when we get home and reminisce about what we just enjoyed as we sit on the terrace and enjoy together a bottle of fine wine and watch the sun set, or maybe try to recreate that interesting cocktail we both liked while in Tahiti.
I want someone with whom I can share my world, and have her show me hers. We should complement one another; two halves of one whole. Similar interests but not clones. Same goal so we're working to get there together, but with our own ideas about what will make the journey interesting, and then let's go there as partners and equals, best friends. I enjoy and appreciate a woman who takes care of herself and is a little "high-maintenance", and I even enjoy shopping. I hope to find a woman who wants a man who freely gives to her, enjoys the attention, and is not so independent that she's intimidated by a man who wants to shop for shoes with her, brings her flowers, opens her doors, carries her bags, brings her gifts for no reason than he was thinking of her, and wishes to give in return. I'm not "clingy" and don't want a woman who is either, but two people in love should enjoy and appreciate one another when they're together. If they are put off by that or "need their own space", there's a problem. If I spend 10-12 hours a day giving myself to my career and the kids I teach and coach, why should I not want to spend my other 5-6 waking hours with my lady? Just sayin'. Besides, I'll have dinner waiting for YOU when you get home, along with a hot bath and a glass of wine. By the way, I'm actually 52. Didn't want to be excluded from your search.
