I looked at my profile the other day and thought to myself, ”Would I want to meet this guy for coffee?” I think if I’m having doubts about my own profile it’s time to rework this thing. Time to hit the old Ctl,Alt,Del on the last one.
So let me first start off telling you who I’m not. I have no tattoos, I have no piercings, and I don’t ride motorcycles. Hmm, what else…I don’t own a waterbed, I don’t watch Fox News, nor am I an Evangelical Christian. If any of those are things you’re looking for then it’s on to the next profile.
I did grow up in the South, so telling you that my mom raised me right is probably understood. She raised me to believe that women aren’t just equal they are more than equal. To her that meant a man still opens the door, pulls out your chair, and yet treats you as an intellectual equal.
I went to the Citadel, but would still politically characterize myself as a liberal. I have a book autographed by Pat Conroy that is signed, “To the Other liberal alumni…” When I decided to go there my liberal parents could not stop asking themselves what they had done wrong as parents. It was the right decision and I think what I took away from that is the importance of keeping your word, loyalty, compassion, a strong work ethic, and I can iron like a madman.
I love my job, but will spare you the details. In short I had one of those Jerry Maguire moments about five years ago, quit my job and got one where I finally felt like I was making a difference in people lives.
I’m not the guy with 150 friends, but the friends I have could call me for anything…just ask them. I take the same approach with my loved ones and I believe that when something goes wrong it isn’t her problem it’s our problem.
So who am I looking for? I’m looking for that person I will admire and will be my best friend. Someone who is kind, sure of herself, loves dogs, financially responsible, can make me laugh, and is passionate about what she does. I want someone who will call me out when I’m wrong and knows when to drop it after I admit I’m wrong (yes, I do know how to say it when I’m wrong). Hopefully you can also put up with me occasionally saying, “I heard something interesting on NPR today…”
Even if it all sounds good, let me warn you, there's still an engineer hiding in there. I’m the type of person that can take some time to warm up to you. Give it time. Once it clicks you will see the reserved guy melt away and my quirky and at times offbeat sense of humor comes out. I love a serious intellectual conversation, but I also like saying those things that will hopefully induce the famous “spit-take”.
If you are interested send me a wink. Who knows, coffee may go well and at some point you may see me cook. I do a killer flourless chocolate cake and because it is a valuable skill I can make a mean Cosmo. Not my drink, but a valuable skill nonetheless…I’ll have a Mojito thanks. If you have any questions just ask. I'm a reasonably open person.
An additional note that may be important: Clearly I need to come right out and say the following. I tend to respond to emails quickly unless I’m actually busy. I see no reason to sit on something for a day or two for the sole purpose of not wanting to look desperate. Remember, I’m a guy and we’re not evolved enough to think through that construct. I also see no reason to waste anyone’s time. My time is precious and I trust that yours is too. I think many of us look at this as one of the most important interviews we’re going to be doing. I don’t do this in my professional life and I see no reason to start here. You are not going to find a mysterious and aloof guy with me. Take any enthusiasm and long emails for what they are. It’s genuine interest and good manners, nothing more.