I'm a guy with a good heart and good intentions who makes mistakes like everyone else. I'm a work in progress and much wiser than I was 10 years ago, heck maybe even 10 minutes ago. But, I do know myself and know where I want to get to and that's something.
I am from Indiana and I suppose that means that I have Midwestern values--although I'm not sure exactly what those are. I do have all of my own teeth and don't wear overalls or drive a mini-pickup truck. But, I still occasionally say "pop" instead of "soda" so forgive me for that.
My soccer teammates would say that I am: loyal, hardworking, dedicated, and selfless (I manage the team and take care of these guys better than their moms). Aside from my boys, all of my family is back in the Midwest and thus my friends here are really more like my family.
My boys will say that I'm a super cool dad because I take them to lots of concerts (recent ones include Black Keys and Silversun Pick-ups with Muse up next at the end of this month), Ducks, Angels, Lakers games and amusement parks. But, they'll also moan because I sit down with them each night I have them and look at their homework, Aeries, and planners. I adore them but have high expectations. Nothing is free--you get what you earn in life.
I believe in random acts of kindness to strangers. Two life changing events happened to me abroad--one with a guy "Mick" whom I met on the train from Liege headed back to U.K. The other related to an elderly French couple whom I met on the night train to Paris. Long stories both--but their unexpected kindness and acts of friendship have stuck with me for these last 20 years and so I try to do similar things when the opportunity presents itself.
I am independent and appreciate that in others. I've not a jealous bone in my body. A good match means achieving the right balance of "hers", "mine", and "ours" when it comes to time management. When starting out, I expect to be dead last on her priority list, behind kids, parents, church, job, hobby...even pets. Any steps up the list are earned and I'll certainly work hard to do that.
Things we might enjoy together include: live sports or music, dressing up and going to hear a symphony, karaoke on taco Tuesday, museums, sunsets at he beach, riding bikes, hiking, traveling, and so on.
Music is a huge part of my day to day life. I listen often with a wide range of tastes. However, my general sweet spot is indie type bands. I also play guitar--okay, not great--and sing whilst doing it--terribly but happily. I'm generally pretty fearless at Karaoke, which combined with poor talent makes for a deadly combination. And, I have no problems singing in the car--alone or not, windows down or up....it's all good.
I'm also a big movie buff but can proudly say that I've been cable/satellite free since August 2010. Streaming movies and great series yes--channel surfing no.
I'm a bit of a closet romantic--opening the door for her, candlelit dinners, red wine, flowers..... But, appreciation is the key. I'll do it as a show of affection not as an obligation.
I would like to find my soul mate, assuming she actually exists. Love is hard (and marriage is even harder). It takes a lot of work, but I'm hopeful I can find the one that I can grow old with. There are no timelines for me as I'm blessed with good friends and my sons whom I adore.
If the worst thing that happens from a date is that I make a new friend--that won't be so bad. (Note:That's NOT the worst thing that has happened to me on a date--let me tell you. Let's just say that there are people out there who are a bit on the scarycrazynutzoid side of things. Funny enough stories now that I'm safe and sound--but not so much when it happened. Obviously my crazy-radar was jammed on those couple of occasions!)