Little over a year ago I tried match. Met some interesting people, some really awesome friends, and some not so awesome people. With my past match experience, I think I have become a little wiser, stronger, smarter and more of a realist on what the expectations are with on-line dating. Guess 2nd time is a charm!
A year has brought lots of change in my life. Changed jobs, moved out of the country to the "big bad city"... well "burbs" as they say in Orchard Park. Wow is it bright here. Can't appreciate the stars and the moon on a clear night as you can in the country. Yes, still believe in the gravitational pull of the moon and the stars. Too beautiful not to observe and wonder. Believe in a higher power without adding religion into the mix.
I live by a basic code of ethics: Family first, work close second, and play hard when you have the time to play. My girls are top priority in my life and will always take the lead.
Learned so much the first time around on match. Big thing I have experienced with others is that dating when newly seperated or divorced doesn't work. Think people need to find themselves first, figure out what they are looking for, and then when they get themselves together start dating. It's a mix for disaster when dating someone who has been on their own for a while.
Was married 20 years, now divorced 6 years with two wonderful girls. Think I'm pretty independent when it comes to living my life, heck, I can even bleed an oil line after living in the country. lol.... Amazing what you can do when on your own .
What am I looking for with match???? Still not so sure. I know that being lonely sucks sometimes. It's nice to have that man in your life who makes you laugh and smile when your down. Having someone you look forward to seeing to share your day. That person you want to call first because you have good news to share or bad news. That someone you feel comfortable with when you need a good cry or a hug to get you through a rough moment. Someone you respect, who is wise, who makes you think before you make the next move. It would be nice to have someone to wake up to when you have that bad dream or know you can call in the middle of the night because your scared. It's always nice to be able to give back to that special someone in return all the above. It would just be nice to feel warm and fuzzy around a person who makes you take a deep breath and smile when you think of them. Most of all, having respect for each other and honesty in a relationship. Huge!!!! If you don't respect someone you can't have everything else. If someone isn't honest with you than you have waisted time. Mostly, when one or the other needs space, it's important to respect that space with understanding....heck, think that about 90% of the people on match are probably looking for something similar or they wouldn't be writing a profile.
What I absolutely don't want from match..... don't want to date a married man. Nope, not happening!!!! How is it that some men get away with on-line dating while still married...amazing! Don't want to date for one night stand, sorry! Don't want to experiment with different ideas or games, no can do!!!! Don't think it's wise to date someone 100 miles away from you, tooo hard!!!! Don't want a text buddy, have too many all ready! Don't want someone who thinks they can financially be taken care of, have my own finances to deal with!!!! Don't want someone who feels everyone owes them for living and breathing instead of what they can do for themselves!!!! I am sure there are more Dont's but these are the major one's I have learned from my previous match experience. Can't go down that road again, so if you are in this category, please don't waist your time.