I joined Match a month ago,That being said, I have had a huge a ha moment over the past month. NICE GUYS DO NOT FINISH LAST. They are actually amazing, refreshing, and endearing. Anyone else...please stop reading and move on.
About me... I was born in Africa, of Indian-Portugese descent, raised here in the US, so please don't think I speak like the characters in "The Gods Must Be Crazy."
I LOVE my life. Each day I wake up and truly smile and feel grateful for all that I have. My days are filled with laughter, adventure, love, gratitude and intensity. I really like who I am and am not looking for anyone to complete me. I am complete...the sprinkles on the cake now would be amazing.
I am a kind, easy going, loving, free spirited individual with some quirky qualities that I hope you adore. I am driven and work hard to excel in all areas of my life: career, parenting, friendships, education, meaning that when something is of value to me I invest myself completely in it. I value my friendships and nurture special relationships with care and acceptance. I am a busy professional but make time to enjoy life completely and lead a balanced existence. Drama is not my thing. If you enjoy drama, conflict, stress, and negativity, please do not reach out to me and waste both our time.
I am a single mother with a very amicable, respectful relationship with my 7 year old's father. We share custody (and dating tips) and work well together to raise our son who is absolutely awesome.
Laughter and great chemistry, mutual respect and acceptance are essential for intimacy in my world. I am not in the people changing business. I find a man who can make me laugh, or just that special glance from a man extremely sexy. I am a sucker for back rubs, someone who strokes my hair while sharing a meal, and to be taken by surprise. A good kiss...priceless and essential.
My ideal match is a man, not a boy. Someone with character, integrity who is motivated and passionate about his life. My ideal partner will value who I am, help me to continue to grow spiritually, be a true partner where love is not only a "feeling" but a deliberate action each day. Someone who will laugh with me, and be the soft place to fall. Someone who really knows how to be a man. I like chivalry and prefer a phone call over a text message. I am extremely affectionate and seek the same.
My pet peeves:bad dentition (unless you are David Beckham), egomaniacs, and people who are rude and shallow.
My life is beautiful. Absolutely beautiful. I wake up each morning smiling and laughing, feeling very blessed about how lucky I am. Therefore, I am ultimately seeking to be with someone who will add beauty to my life as I hope to with theirs.
My favorite quote is from the Seven Pillars of Wisdom :"All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes, to make it possible."
I try to remember to dream with my eyes open... Now ready to dream with someone else.