i see the beauty in most people, even if they are radically different than me and i have a tremendous capacity to enjoy myself. because of this, it's easy for me to love, feel compassion, be joyful and loyal to those i choose to share myself with. i have only had long term, monogamous relationships that have not ended due to bordem or some harsh experience, rather they end because people change and grow and develop new needs at different times in our lives---sometimes the relationship can accommodate these changes and sometimes it cannot. tho i am always reticent to end a long term relationship because of all the investment, i don't take it personally, i don't blame the other person for not being this or that...that's why i think the friendships endure. anyways, at this time, like probably many of you, i have a very full life. i have a great family, friends, lots of people to do things with who love me, i have many interests. i've travelled, experienced life, succeeded in school and at work...i have accomplished a lot for myself and so my needs have changed. what i am primarily interested in now is a mate who meets me sensually, intellectually and spiritually because this is where i am at right now, these are my needs, interests and my commitment--- probably for the rest of my life. i also intuitively believe that following this need will bring even more light and love into my other commitments---family, friends, community and make me a stronger person.
it is the very reasons why people love being around me that are currently my greatest challenges, tho i am easy to be around, gentle and non-argumentative, i am also extremely passionate, alternatively minded and very opinionated. being a mother and wife i put more energy into being a support person and i think that was important and worthwhile at that time, however how i really view myself is as a very monogamous, loving and committed partner who is also a deeply sensual and intellectually complex person. I am looking for a sensual mate who's strong enough in himself to both appreciate the ease and loveliness i bring into his life, whilst also being open to, and desiring of the person i am becoming. this man not only wants the whole package but wants a dynamic partner not just a nice fit.