The "bad" news to some: I’m affectionate, attentive, honest, faithful, respectful, reliable, have a quick though somewhat wry sense of humor, and I always put the seat down. I didn’t plan to be this way, but apparently it was life’s plan for me. If you see such traits as signs of weakness, I’m simply not your guy.
The "worse" news to some: I’ve never been married. I didn’t plan that, either; it was one of those “life is what happens while you’re making other plans” things. I’ve had a number of relationships including three that might have led to marriage. But Suzanne chose not to move from the Bay Area to LA when I landed an important job there. I chose not to move from LA to Chicago when Donna landed a great job there. And Miriam chose not to move from LA to Atlanta when I decided to go to law school there. If I had it to do again, I’d probably choose one of those relationships over career, but hindsight is always 20-20.
I was 42 when I finished law school, and nearing 50 by the time I was established as an attorney. Never-married men that age aren’t exactly in demand as marriage material. So, I spent the past ten years learning more about myself, and becoming comfortable in my own skin. And here I am at 60, seeking a life companion with whom to play and grow younger. By the way, did I mention, I always put the seat down?
Perhaps because I’ve been too focused on career, I’ve never become passionate about any particular outdoor activity, except hiking and the outdoors (also formerly camping and backpacking before I yielded to the reality that the best place to camp is a lodge with a bar and a fireplace).
Instead, I prefer sampling a variety of new and different activities, including: skeet, trap, and sporting clay shooting (although I’ve never found a good recipe for them); autocrossing; kart racing (did you know shifter karts reach 165 mph?); white water rafting; kayaking; canoeing; small boat sailing; jet skiing; cross-country skiing (no downhill due to a knee injury); snorkeling; scuba diving; horseback riding; biking; tennis; and golf. Actually, I might have become passionate about biking and tennis if not for my knee, and about golf if not for living 12 years in LA where it’s nearly impossible to get on a course.
I once went biplane stunt flying, and once mock dogfighting; in both cases the pilots took control only when I made serious mistakes, which wasn’t often. My bucket list includes sailplaning (fixed wing gliders), hot air balloon, sports car racing lessons, and a tour of the world’s (I’ll settle for nation’s) most radical roller coasters. I’ll consider skydiving, and conceivably anything else you’d like to try. Two exclusions: no heights without ropes, and no immersion in cold oceans, even with wetsuits.
My cultural interests are also varied. Concerts (a wide variety of music), theater, museums (art and history), live baseball, comedy clubs, films, dog shows, wine tasting, coffee and conversation, etc. If you didn’t catch Cavalia in San Jose, you missed an amazing show. I’m a big fan of day and weekend trips; if they make gourmet dark chocolate where our trip takes us, even better.
I’m also perfectly content nestling, talking (as in truly talking), watching a good film or documentary, or spending Sunday morning making relaxed, comfortable, unhurried love.
I suppose I've finally learned that there’s nothing to career except more career. On the upside, the path I took has made me confident and comfortable with myself, and ready and able to focus on a relationship – perhaps with you. So, here I am, seeking a best friend and life companion, with whom to share this kaleidoscope of life, and with whom to grow younger. And, did I mention, I always put the seat down?
