PLEASE NO WINKS or messages until you read my insufferable little essay!
So here is my idea of a perfect life: I meet you and we fall in love; I move out of Philadelphia (to where you are?) and purchase 100 acres in the mountains somewhere within a reasonable drive of a town with a decent College or University. The house would have an open floor plan, perhaps a converted barn, with a spacious well-equipped kitchen since I spend a lot of time there. Our garden would produce a lot of the food that we eat. We would have an eclectic, well-educated group of friends and we would entertain often. I envision dinner parties with lively discussions about everything from politics to literature to the pros and cons of vegetarianism. I would have an online business and write my first novel. We would be best friends and partners, great lovers and supporters of each others? endeavors, which would be many, since we are both high achievers. You would care about your health and the health of the planet, and we would motivate each other to stay in shape, stimulate our minds, and always strive for improvement. People would remark how young we look and ask how we do it. We would spend quality time together, but also allow each other to cultivate interests distinct from each other. We would work hard to communicate with each other and keep the fire burning in our intimate relationship; that is to say we would not take each other for granted like most couples do.
Sound like pie in the sky to you? And why am I single anyway?
Here's the rub: I am an intelligent, unconventional, athletic, creative, confident Aquarian who possesses the curse of the gifted female: I have a hard time finding a man who is very bright, ambitious, emotionally and financially stable, somewhat active, and confident enough to want a woman as a co-pilot rather than a subordinate, at least some of the time. And if that's not enough to ask that catalyst for a deep physical connection known as sex appeal has to be there too. I have my wild side but I'm stable, independent and self-reliant, so I will buy my farm alone if I have to, but that is not how I want my life to play out. That's where you come in.
Obviously chemistry is important in these matters, but I value honesty and integrity just as much. I keep myself in great shape, not only for health and longevity, but also because I operate at an intense level and I need to move my body every day. If you are the sedentary type who does not take care of yourself it's not going to work; on the other hand I have spent a lot of time around elite athletes over the past 10 years; I just retired from racing mountain bikes myself, and many athletes are narcissistic men who are more interested in the surface than what is underneath, which frankly is kind of lame. I mean I get the attraction has to be there, but I need the inquisitive mind and irrepressible spirit as well.
As for you, if you think we would be a good match, or if you want to give me advice about where to move, feel free to send me an email. I've cast my net pretty wide in terms of geography since I have not found a place to move yet; perhaps you can convince me why your neck of the woods is a good candidate for a homestead. I have to say it's looking like Washington, Oregon, Colorado or Idaho at this point---there, I've narrowed it down.
As for winks, I don't respond to them since I prefer men who don't need me to make the first move. I won't wink at you either. I prefer to get to know you via email and text before meeting up. If that seems tedious to you we are probably not well-matched. I don't want to waste your time or mine. Thank you for reading through to the end, and good luck achieving your own version of the dream.
