After several post-divorce relationships, I still haven't found The One, but I HAVE figured out what I do want, what I don't want, and what's negotiable in a relationship.
For example: negotiable--a coffee drinker would be nice, but it's not a must; ditto an enjoyer of wine; and someone who likes the same kinds of movies that I do (drama, intelligent comedies, documentaries).
Non-negotiable--no smokers, unemployed folks (I know times are tough, economically speaking, but I work too hard to be with a guy who's been sitting around all day watching the soaps, eating bonbons, drinking beer, or whatever else they do while they're sitting around all day- ) and no drug users.
Some more of my thoughts on "Who-he-is:"
He is not necessarily wealthy, but certainly not on welfare.
He has a Passion for Something--it could be work-related, it could be service-related, or it could be a hobby, but it's something (legal lol) that he loves to do and that keeps him interested, interesting, and loving life.
He takes reasonably good care of his health, but isn't fanatic or maniacal about it.
He enjoys interesting/lively conversation with his partner, but he knows how to sit silently and just enjoy the experience of being together.
He doesn't have to have pets, but he doesn't mind that some people do.
He is not into status symbols (big, fancy cars; bikes; designer clothing) because he realizes the importance of what's Really Important: people, not things.
He knows the value of Thoreau's "Simplify, Simplify," and so he is not frittering away his life with the superficial, materialistic, or maddeningly trivial details that can indeed drain away the rest of his time here on Earth.
He knows that life is short, at best, and that we're here to Make a Difference, but also To Enjoy.
A little about me: if you've gotten through all-of-the-above, you already know a little about me.
Here's a little bit more: I am a social being, but I do also love/need some solitude/peace/quiet.
I don't LOVE bars, but I will go there if there's good music happening or good friends gathering.
I like my coffee black and very strong, my wine mellow (red's warm; white's iced), and my men--strong and mellow.
I'm an independent woman, but wouldn't mind being taken care of and protected---by the right man. And when we find each other, I won't mind tightening his loose buttons or mending his hems, rubbing his neck (reciprocity is appreciated!) or listening to his day's woes, whoas, or wows.
IF you've gotten through all of these words, and you're still wanting to learn more...
Should we actually meet, you will encounter Me: a relatively easy-going, go-with-the-flow, sometimes conversational, sometimes quiet, always-interesting, nature-loving woman
What are you waiting for?
Let's get Us started!