Me: I’m a "recovering musician" (as in recovering from being in bands most of my life - not as in kicking heroin or anything...let's be clear). I'm still convinced that someday I’ll be at a concert at Philips where they announce that the drummer quit and the show is cancelled unless someone in the audience knows all of the songs and can fill in. Stop with the snickering! It could happen! My immediate family is pretty close. We still have family dinner most every Sunday. I have a job that I enjoy with people that I really like. It’s a grown-up job where I wear a tie and have my own parking space and everything. I take it seriously, but leave my work AT work except on rare occasion. I sometimes play golf (poorly) and mostly with my dad. He’s still my hero and if I grow up to be half the man he is then my life will have been worthwhile. I sometimes curse too much and find childish things funny, but I know when and how to be an adult. Yes, I’m divorced, but I’m over it. If you’re divorced I would hope that you’re over it too. I have no kids unless you count the furry one who is probably the coolest thing about me and who I call Wondermutt. I’d love to say that I’m a wine connoisseur, but the truth is probably that I’m more of a high functioning wino. Not really, but I do love red wine. So, like everyone says there is more to me, but I’ll save it for when we chat – email, phone, real life - whatever works for you.
You: You’re smart and independent. You’re gainfully employed and at least "like" your job. You have friends that are female - ‘cause I’ll get a little weirded out if you don’t have any. You have a sense of humor and aren’t easily offended (you can appreciate that I find Louis CK and Eddie Izzard two of the funniest people in the history of ever). You consider people watching a sport and have an affinity for practicing it on a regular basis. You’re sweet, friendly, and kind to children and old people. You don’t tolerate pretentiousness. You are communicative and honest, but you don't use "honesty" as an excuse to be rude, insensitive, or self-serving. You’ve got your favorites, but you aren’t afraid to try something new. You know who you are, what you want, and what you need (all within reason). You’re ok with me calling you by cute pet names, holding your hand more often than not, hugging you tightly just because, and most of all you’re comfortable with someone loving you (if it comes to all of that).
Now, you absolutely don’t have to fit exactly into this mold that I’ve described. Just be someone who is with me because you WANT to be...because that’s what you’ll get from me too. I want a relationship that MEANS something.
Oh! Apparently I’m also supposed to say that I’m just as happy spending an evening at home on the couch as I am out on the town and that I’m as comfortable in high heels as I am in flip-flops and…..oh……wait....
So, shoot me an email or, if you're so inclined, respond to the one I sent you that made you read this!