My perception of a great relationship consists of three components. Honesty, Consistency and Communication, I feel if I can apply these things in a relationship I can be a great man in general...
Never put yourself in the situation where you feel you can’t be honest to your partner. Don’t ever use the excuse “I didn’t want to tell you because I knew you would get mad” let them decide that, our assumptions always get us in trouble. Being honest may cause some distance for a while but at least he or she knows that they are respected and knowing they will eventually get over whatever it was without having those negatives intentions.
On your first couple of dates you both when out of your way to impress each other rather it was looking extra nice or buying flowers, those are going to be the same things that keep you together. Stay consistent and a year down the line send flowers just because you want to say hi, don’t make it an occasion just to say sorry. Not Cool! On those first couple of dates you wanted to look dashing to impress because what they thought really mattered, continue to always want to look nice for your partner and not because they want you to but because what they think of you still matters now more than ever.
No matter how small you think something is if it bothers you communicate it to your partner, it can’t be fixed if they don’t know a problem even exists. When you consume feelings “small” they become big and then animosity builds up than come resentment. S scenario, one night you two are out and he doesn’t hold the door for you, she cops an attitude for the rest of the night and he doesn’t understand why she is acting such a way over something so small. This has been something that has always bothered her but she felt like it was small so she would hold it in to so call prevent an argument, until that 1 day animosity had built up so much it couldn’t be restrained any longer and know you two aren’t only fighting over the door but other things as well.. You know what I’m talking about! Whatever is on your mind express it to your partner and hope that they will be understanding. We on the other end have to make our partner feel comfortable enough to be able to communicate whatever whenever where ever it is on their mind without us getting defenseive. At that point we need to learn to become good listens and try not to be a problem solver, sometimes all they want is to be heard. In a relationship we can’t allow things to be ignored because they are not going to go away, we are humans we will use those things as ammo for the next argument.
Remember this is my own perception it’s not right or wrong just the kind of relationship I like to be involved in. If your heart is not in it than for me it becomes irrelevant, you can change the mind but you can’t change somebodies heart. I don’t think that this is asking too much at least I hope not.
