I’ve noticed quite a few women’s profiles with the following headline:“Do guys even read this?" That’s a fair question. Let’s face it, men tend to be more shallow than women when it comes to looks. However, some men, myself included, have learned that being shallow is ultimately unsatisfying and a waste of time. Spending time with someone who has only good looks to offer gets old in a hurry, at least for me. I won’t pretend chemistry isn’t important, because it is. But true chemistry can exist only if there’s something more than physical attraction at work. So, to answer your question, (if you’re one of the women who has posed that question, or at least thought about it) - Yes, some men do read women’s profiles to see if there might be some potential for more than just physical attraction. Now that you know I actually read women’s profiles, it’s only fair that you continue reading this profile........ :-)
As far as describing myself, I won’t bore you by telling you my friends think I’m “laid back” or “down-to-earth” or “super-awesome” or anything else. What does that prove? They’re my friends. Of course they’re going to say nice things about me. And even if my friends didn’t have anything nice to say about me, I would still claim that they think I’m a great guy. Who wouldn’t? So I’m not going to try to convince you that random people think highly of me. I’m confident my words will prove that I’m someone worth getting to know. Or, at the very least, that I’m not a complete psycho. :-)
I would say that one of my better qualities is being a good listener. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy talking as much as the next guy and have no problem holding up my end of a conversation. But I’ve come to realize that for me, listening is usually more interesting and satisfying than speaking. I take pride in the fact that I make an effort to focus on what’s being said to me, rather than on what I want to say next. I’ve known a few people whose listening skills made me feel like they really cared about what I had to say, and I aspire to be one of those people.
When it comes to personality traits that I look for in a partner, I’m not too picky or demanding. Two people either have chemistry between them or they don’t. My only requirement is that any woman I date must be kind. So if you’re someone who is nice to waitresses and gardeners, then we’re probably compatible. I always enjoy meeting new people so if we meet and there's no chemistry, I don't consider it a waste of time.
In general, I’ve found that romantic chemistry is mysterious and impossible to predict. For me, true chemistry exists when I feel happy and peaceful simply because that special someone is in the same room with me. When no words need to be spoken and physical proximity is enough to put a smile on my face, then I know I’ve found something real.
Thanks for checking out my profile. If I haven’t convinced you that I’m someone worth getting to know better, would you mind showing my profile to your cute friend, neighbor, or co-worker whose hot sister has recently become available? What?!? You can’t blame a guy for trying!! :-)
If we connect via email and decide to meet, something simple and casual works for me. And a coffee date is easy to cut short if I'm boring, don't you agree? :-)
Here are some things I'm into:
MOVIES - No Country for Old Men, The Godfather I, II, Chinatown, Napolean Dynamite, American Beauty, Harold and Maude, Caddyshack, Marathon Man, Dr. Strangelove, Groundhog Day, Half Nelson, Old School, Amores Perros, The Gods Must Be Crazy, The Lives of Others, Moonstruck, Glengarry Glenross, Annie Hall, Unforgiven, Goodfellas, Secretary, Bottle Rocket
MUSIC - Neil Young, Elvis Costello, The Counting Crows, Marvin Gaye, Miles Davis, Bob Dylan, James Taylor, Tom Waits, John Coltrane, Bruce Springsteen, The Rolling Stones, Pink Floyd, Bob Marley, Rickie Lee Jones, The Beatles, Natalie Merchant, Pearl Jam, The Clash, Dire Straits,