Attempting to paint an accurate picture of who I am as a person is challenging but also somewhat entertaining. The question is always where to start...hmm. I think I'll begin by saying that first and foremost that I’m a guy who enjoys laughter. I’m a pretty funny person overall and try to meet everything in life with some sort of light heartedness. In the same vein, I thoroughly enjoy silliness and I’m not a stranger to going the extra yard just to make someone else laugh or smile. Ok, I'll just admit it - I'm a bit of a goofball!
Now, here’s where it gets interesting. My two main interests are music and film, and having said that I can be incredibly serious minded about both. So, in essence, I can be laughing one minute and then talking seriously about something just shortly afterwards. This is a bit of the conundrum that I have in dating…there just don’t seem to be a lot of people who do this and it’s actually kind of important to me. If I date someone who is just silly/goofy, my serious side is a bit unfulfilled; if it’s someone that’s really serious, they tend to look at me like I’m crazy when I’m goofing around. Thus, I think this is part of the challenge.
I’m really a companion person overall, looking for that (cliche alert!) best friend relationship where we can pretty much do anything and still have a good time just being together. That can be something very specific like a live music show, play, opera, walking/hiking, cooking dinner, etc., but can also be just running errands at Target. I like to just enjoy my time with someone; what we’re actually doing is secondary.
I mentioned films… I realize this is a pretty broad statement so allow me to narrow it a bit. I mainly watch both old film and modern day independent and foreign cinema and I'll admit to being quite the movie buff at times. If you're playing Trivial Pursuit and the category is film, I'm the guy that you want on your team who knows that obscure answer about Cary Grant or Audrey Hepburn. Some old favorites are "It Happened One Night" (still, I think, one of the greatest comedies of all time), "City Lights", and "Notorious". For modern film, I tend to prefer rather heavy and emotional movies such as “Blue Valentine”, “The Tree of Life”, “Rust and Bone”, “Killer Joe”, or “Melancholia”, just to name a few of my more recent fav's. I could go on and on…seriously. Send me an email and we can compare our best film picks of last year. I love talking about that sort of thing.
By day, I do database development work but I spend a lot of my free time writing songs, practicing guitar, working on an occasional short story, and, um, watching movies (you knew that was coming, right?). I almost always have some creative project in my head that’s rolling around, seeking a way to come to life, and the challenge is finding the right avenue for it and following it through to completion. Contrary to my day job with computers, I’m a pretty non-techy guy overall. I don’t own a tablet, I don’t use an Ipod, I barely ever use a cell phone, and so on. I’m a bit of an enigma that way. I guess I just don’t see the need in my life for the latest gadget and I definitely don’t feel the need to own things simply because people around me do so I more or less just do my own thing in that regard.
It’s a total cliche but open communication is probably the biggest thing to me in a relationship. I’m a very open person, very in touch with how I feel at any given moment, and I do best with people who are the same or at least desire this level of communication. So, if you’re looking for someone who’s a communicator, we’ll probably get along fabulously.
I never go into meeting people with absurd expectations so please feel no pressure. Even if it’s not an ultimate love connection, I’m all about creating new friendships, connections, etc. There’s no risk so feel free to write me an email, even to just say ‘hi'.
