I am a very laid back man. I enjoy the simple things in life. I like to read, I like movies, music, spending time with family and friends, and doing something daily to try and bring a smile to someones face no matter how I may feel inside that day (just a personal goal I set for myself).
I do have a son that is 5 yrs old and holds the biggest spot in my heart. He lives primarily with his mother in Wisconsin, I have him over the summers and major holidays. I have myself listed as divorced because I am... on paper. I never really felt like I was married. The marriage lasted 2 years 1 of which I was in Iraq for when I was cheated on. I filed for divorce as soon as I returned to the US. Once that level of trust is broken it can never be repaired with me. We did the whole vegas style thing in Germany at the time so I never had a real wedding either. So, I was married, but like I said to me, it was just a piece of paper.
Anyways, I love to travel and explore new places. I love to learn new things and meet different types of people. I generally stay away from bars and clubs with the exception of the VFW in Lititz that I go to every once in a while. I'm not looking for a bar/club girl. I am looking for a woman. I'm not opposed to going out to a bar but if I am in a relationship I wouldn't want my signifigant other going to a bar without me, just doesn't sit well. I guess the same sort of goes with friends of the opposite sex. I would NEVER hang out with another girl if my girl wasn't with me, it just leads to problems, fights, and puts unneeded stress on a relationship (I would obviously expect the same in return. Family is different of course). I want someone that can be spontaneous, is dedicated, understanding, and overall knows what she wants and isn't just playing games.
I have plenty of flaws in my life and I am going to break down to hopefully save you and I some time. I am a pretty upfront guy, a take me as I am type of person.
Since I was cheated on I do have some insecurities and want someone that understands that and can accept the fact that it is something that I am working on. The history of our lives shapes and defines who we are and this is just who I am. It's a flaw that I have and don't want to have and strive with every fiber of my being to overcome it when in a relationship. I have made steps with some women before but when meeting someone new it just starts all over again.
Now please don't that the wrong way. I am not looking to change anyone. I am just looking for understanding and acceptance. I am not controlling the slightest bit and never will be.
I am financially stable, I have my own place and a vehicle and have no financial issues or debt aside from my car loan (I feel like I should post my credit score but I won't go that far hahah) I live in a very nice area in Warwick TWP just outside of Lititz. I do have a 2 bedroom apartment just so my son has his own room when he is here.
I feel as though I should be upfront with the fact that I was injured in Iraq. I am a product of war. I have no visible injuries. I have PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and had a TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury). I am fully recovered from the TBI with the exception of chronic migraines. I do still take medication to help me cope with my PTSD and I have come a long way in the years that I have been out the Army. I go to the VA Hospital in Lebanon a few times a month for therapy. I receive disability from the VA as well as my medical retirement from the Army. I do not work aside from doing some web design jobs here and there or updating a site which bring in some but not needed money. If you can accept me for that...
I am content with where I am in life I just want to share it with someone and be just as much a part of their life. If you're mature, respectful, and ready to settle down with a man that will treat you with the respect you deserve, feel free to message me, as you can tell I don't hold much back :)
