Well girls it’s been a while since I sat down and wrote a new essay for this thing so I guess its time I freshen it up a bit. This will likely be the last time though. I have decided that this is not working so at some point in the not to distant future I’m just going to give this M.O. up and move on.
For now though, I’ll try one last time. This time I think I’ll lay down some basics you may, in my mind, reasonably expect of me, and tell you what I think I should reasonably expect of you. First, if you get an email from me, it will have been written especially for you and no one else, I never send form or canned letters. If you don’t write back, I will think you a rude, spoiled. little chicklet on whom I have wasted the last of my precious time. If having that little of an expectation makes me a jerk in your eyes…. well then, I’m a jerk. The good news for the both of us is that we will then have one more thing in common. See, I can be positive!
If I write you, I am interested in YOU. I’m interested in discovering what, if any, long term monogamous and exclusive potential we might have. I do not play the field, parallel date, girl juggle, or what ever other term you wish to use. I am truly a one woman man. At some point fairly quickly we will need to move from writing to calling to a real date. I’ve tried the “lets just write” thing. To be frank it’s stupid, and I felt like schmuck.
Yea, I know, sounds pretty “jerky” so far but honest, I’m fun interesting and likable, just ask me. (that was a little self deprecating humor there girls)
But really, the craziness doesn’t end there. Many, many women on this site like to boast about how “independent” they are; about how self sufficient they are. I don’t mind telling you that nothing has less appeal to me than a woman with no needs. That’s first. More importantly it’s crap! The first thing one says about ones self on this site is “I’m a blank, Looking for a blank”. If you where totally self contained you wouldn’t be on this site to get ticked off at me for telling you that your claims of complete self sufficiency are bogus in the first place. More to the point I have a suspicion that those claims have more to do with lowering expectations than anything else. In the back of the mind of this person is the notion that if they tell the world that they have no needs to be met then nothing will be expected of them. A completely erroneous notion about ANY relationship of ANY kind I feel comfortable in assuring you.
That said here is what I think IS necessary. Service. Any successful relationship, be it between individuals, individuals and business, between governments, what ever level you choose to examine, relies on both sides serving the other. If you want a successful relationship, it must be based on meeting a need that the other person has and they meeting yours. It sounds clinical and cold but in fact the best of those personal relationships that we all aspire to be part of, are, in fact, perfectly symbiotic. Both parties have needs they simply must have filled and the other does so with perfect “dovetail” precision. Sometimes they do so with little effort, but more often than not it is with a great deal of personal effort and commitment. However it’s done, if it is done, it creates this wonderful illusion of effortless perfection we call “love”.
So, for me, the perfect relationship isn’t with someone who has no needs and whom does not wish to involve herself with mine. Far from it, my ideal relationship is one where I will have some dragons to slay, moats to swim, a damsel to rescue; to carry away and live happily ever after with! I’m looking for a woman whom I can “do” for.
There, you have what I can get in here. I have a lot more to share with you, but it’ll take the rest of my life to do it. If you think the game worth the candle, write me.