From the midwest, ended up in the city for my profession, going on 7 yrs. Tried this site when I first moved here and had a lot of fun, but now I'm looking for something more meaningful. I want to share my cooking, care for someone and build an enduring relationship together. I would like to start a family and pass along the same values I grew up with. Laughter and learning along the way would be nice too.
Being that I'm from a rural area, my values are environmental responsibility in not just waste but food consumption. I enjoy cooking regularly and knowing where ingredients are from. I'd like to have a garden again and even a few animals so if you want to leave the city someday that's a big plus. I value family and my elders and am always searching for more spiritual meaning. I would like to get back to a simpler life but that is hard in Manhattan!
In my free time I enjoy reading, doing yoga and cooking. Most of my friends are busy now with their own families, careers or are out of state. I enjoy visiting them on free weekends and whenever I can I go to the theater museum or movies. I also volunteer several times a week and find that to be rewarding.
I would like to find a man that is emotionally intelligent or at least interested in developing in that direction. I'm not a fighter so articulation and understanding are important to me. Sense of humor, kindness and a capacity for wonderment are also important - there are a lot of jaded mean people in this town but that's not for me. I would like my mate to enjoy eating interesting foods and in particular vegetables as much as animals. I find that to be a good barometer of character, health and in general harmonious with my lifestyle.
I especially value the characteristics of warmth and humility in a man. Warmth because I'm a very open, even ebullient person and I like to feel that my energy isn't just hitting a wall. Humility is important because in this city is seems everyone has a need to declare how successful they are or equate their identity with their profession. This isn't attractive to me. I've been successful in my career and I am here because I've realized that I want more than that.
Lastly, a note on the physical (and an addendum after 2 wks of dating on this site)- I am a sensual, physical person but only in the context of a meaningful relationship; physical encounters without depth don't interest or titillate me. I consider a hand on my inner thigh or a tongue inside my mouth to be intimate and personal acts. If you attempt to do this to me on the first date, I respectfully submit that we are not looking for the same thing. Likewise, I think the best indicator of chemistry is when people try to NOT act on impulses and the delicious electricity that creates. Basically, if you're looking for insta-intimacy, I don't think you understand the meaning of true intimacy.
And sorry guys, but I don't like cologne on men. I like fragrance on me and I've gotten compliments that the one I chose is tasteful. On a man I'd like to know what your skin really smells like, in due time of course :)
