When I was in 1st grade, there was a really sweet kid named Daniel who always, always, always shared his double pack Twinkies with me during recess. Back then I didn't know what a crush or love were. Then one day, his older bully brother chased me around and chanted, "R and Daniel sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G. First comes love, then comes marriage and then the baby carriage…"
Uh, oh….everything changed after that. Suddenly, I no longer wanted anything to do with Daniel or his Twinkies, even though he tried to fend his brother off me. Poor Daniel. Well, I want someone like Daniel. He just liked me for who I was and wanted to be around me and share his beloved Twinkies. Where have all the sweet, romantic Daniels in the world gone? Or, have they all grown up and turned into another animal, traumatized by the run-away 1st grade girls like me?
That being said…
I want someone who I have great chemistry AND compatibility with, where conversations can be about anything and being silly is okay. Someone w/a healthy, normal mind. I have many interests and I hope he would, too. He's fun-loving and not afraid to show his feminine side or his emotions. He knows how to be romantic and knows how to court a lady. Do you know which side of the sidewalk you should walk on? He's willing to try new things, even things that he's doubted in the past or dislike, for example—running a 5k, 10k or even half marathon with me. Ha! In a nutshell, he's adventurous, ACTIVE, energetic, fun, witty, intelligent, creative, blah, blah, blah...AND, he's family-oriented, independent, successful, passionate at what he does and knows when to be serious. He wants a serious, long-term relationship. Dating can be fun, but it can also really suck. I'm also looking for someone who's going to fit in with my family, but more importantly with me. Every year, we participate in the ING Bay To Breakers 12k in San Francisco and it would be nice to find someone who's willing to do it, too, but not a necessity.
They say relationships take hard work, but I don't believe that. It shouldn't be so hard if you both truly want to be together. I need someone who is a good communicator, who is not afraid to say what's on his mind and be able to express himself. Not a namby-pamby. Balance w/a little give and take is key. Sometimes there's chemistry, but not compatibility (bummer!) and sometimes there's no chemistry, but compatibility (friends!). I meet lots of great guys, but it really comes down to chemistry and sometimes that develops later on, not necessarily on the 1st meeting. If I don't feel it, I can't move forward, but I always try to give it a little time. If I really enjoy your company and still don't feel that special spark, I'd say I've made a new friend. Take that as a compliment.
I am an imperfect being, yet a perfect me for who I am. I enjoy the company of those who can somehow entertain my mind, keeping my interest, inspiring me to become a better person. I am afraid of spiders, fascinated by criminal minds, ghostly stories and ghastly crimes. I appreciate technology, gadgets and all the little tricks to cooking baking. I enjoy exhibits like, Gunther von Hagens' "Body World" and past exhibits like "Ecstasy" at the Geffen.
What else? I prefer snowboarding over skiing and skydiving over bungee jumping. I enjoy cooking, baking and presenting it all nicely. I'm an Ikea, West Elm, Crate Barrel, Williams Sonoma type of girl. Yes, I dig Ikea Swedish meatballs with lingonberry sauce! Oh...I have a very sensitive sense of smell. Cologne, perfume BO are my enemies. ;p