I am new to this but figured I have nothing to lose, right? Just like you I love my kids, family & friends. I too, am very lucky to call this beautiful area home and love taking advantage of all there is to do here. I like camping, movies, dressing up and hitting Ventana for margaritas, walking on the beach, horseback riding, wandering thru downtwon Santa Barbara or SLO, riding dirt bikes in the desert, hiking, SUP boarding in Avila & then enjoying the sunset, bike riding, dining out or staying in snuggled up on the sofa. It's also hard to beat a concert in the park or BBQ'ing by the Koi pond in the back yard with the fire pit with friends, old & new!
I find it difficult to " sell " myself here but I believe that the only way to know if there's anything to be had is to grab a cup of coffee, lunch or a drink and find out! Hope you agree & good luck to you!!