I enjoy the good company of friends and family, filled with laughter, food and meaningful conversation. I'm honest with myself and work on my flaws. I try my best to walk the earth with confidence and stand up for what is right, not what's popular.
I'm blessed with three beautiful boys, one who's out of the house, another who's 17 and my little guy who I share with his mom. I'm also blessed with lifelong friendships, of which I have many, from every stage of my life. Together they keep me grounded, joyful and moving forward. I enjoy cooking a great deal as a way to express myself. I'm most in my element when I'm outdoors playing softball or soccer, barbequing, camping and fishing, doing picnics, outdoor music festivals. I like spontaneous adventures and figuring things out as I go sometimes (like playing guitar which is probably why I’m not very good at it but still love it). But I am quite capable of planning for something special. I'm not afraid to take risks, but do like a little support from my partner when I know I’m approaching one.
I'm done with the PhD and moving into the next phase of this process. I'm smart but not full of myself. Sociologists have a tendency to kill a conversation if you make it a habit to point the assumptions and contradictions. So I do my best to keep that to myself. Things feel a little more manageable now that my head is off the guillotine. So I'm inviting a beautiful woman into my life who is comfortable in her identity, is joyful, humorous, witty and capable of improvising when life takes a left turn. I especially appreciate smart, graceful, independent, and intellectually oriented women who gravitate towards complexity and not away from it. Sharing what's on your mind (good, bad or indifferent), the stories of your life (happy, sad, tragic, unfinished) and asking me what's on my mind is vital. But so is sitting comfortably in silence together. In terms of couples things I enjoy – dancing, films, nice dinners, little getaways, back rubs, escorting you for important events. It would be nice if we shared other things like a exercising together, a love of farmers and flea markets, or cooking, or love for music, but I suppose it’s also a nice opportunity to rub off on each other. I want to keep it simple, enjoy what's in front of me . . . my boys, my parents, friends and family . . . YOU . . . have lots of experiences . . . see a bit of the world . . . share lots of food . . . create memories . . . and make something special for the future. I love being funny and gregarious, and am genuinely honest, reflective and loyal. I like to dance and would love someone to take a class with me, maybe tango or salsa or swing!
I'm attracted to people who are wicked smart, artists, lefties, or anyone who thinks out of the right side of their brain. I gravitate towards creativity, maybe it's an attitude . . . I don't know, I just know it's important to me. Being kind, loving, making time for one another and being each others respite. That's what I want.
I’m open to women with or without children, previously married or not. I'm still raising my little one and understand the demands of being a good parent. In some ways sharing those experiences will likely help, but I make no judgement in either case. Our lives are what they are. If you have any questions, all you need do is ask.