In a perfect world, one woman would respond to my profile, we’d connect from the start and live happily ever after. That hasn’t happened yet, so here goes another shot. I’m not great at waxing poetic prose, so here’s my engineer’s style data dump.
I’ve been divorced since 1996, moved to MN in 2000 to be near my daughter (now 22). After dating a lot of nice women from various clubs and this site, with little success and the frustration building, I decided to quit dating completely a few years ago and concentrated on my “guy stuff”. It’s time to try again, but I’m really out of practice.
Personality wise, you’ll find I’m outgoing, direct in communication, with a sarcastic (not mean), dry or self-deprecating sense of humor. I eat pretty much anything but sea urchin and okra, and tend toward healthier foods most of the time. If GQ style is must, you’ll be sorely disappointed. I’m a casual, jean kind of guy, but coming from the old “white collar” engineering world so I do know how dress appropriately for any occasion. I live well within my means and have a retirement plan. Most of my friends and family do not live in MN. I drive a relatively new pickup truck specially set up in the back with my dog kennel and training stuff…I keep the cab for humans.
For me, the most important things in a relationship are Friendship, Communication, Sensuality, Chemistry and Trust. So what do I mean?
- Friendship is where we can have fun doing anything. It doesn’t matter if it’s movies, making dinner, travel or working out. It’s also about making accommodations for the other person’s interests, even if you don’t care to participate.
- Communication seems to be a challenge for a lot couples. I love it when someone can finish my thought. BTW – What does the word “Fine” mean?
- Sensuality...It’s not about the sex. Touching is good. It’s a powerful way to communicate, without saying a word. Think holding hands, a touch to the back, kissing and naked spooning in the morning.
- Chemistry. Can’t explain it, can’t bottle, can’t really describe why, but you know it when it’s there.
- Trust is a must…Without it you have nothing.
I have a lot of outdoor interests. Hiking or backpacking in the mountains is one of my favorites, but since we live in MN (no mountains), I’ve taken up ruffed grouse and pheasant hunting for the fall. From that, I’ve started the more serious type of hunting dog training with my GSP Jack. I’ve had to give up running (knee) and have dialed back my cycling to a leisurely pace (back). Although it’s been more than a decade since I’ve competed, I still try to maintain reasonable fitness and have a “training” mindset. I hooked up with my NY friends in 2012 to do a 60 mile, 6 day backpack to summit Mt Whitney. I love activity based travel, but chilling on an ocean beach works for me too. Regular workouts are now walking (sometimes with a 50 lb. pack), competitive swim training (in a TYR, not a Speedo) and weights a few days a week. Indoor activities include casual dining, cooking (started with the game birds), movies (more art house/indie, like The Session), theater, small venue music, etc…pretty much anything is fun with the right person.
Based on a number of profiles I've read and so we don't waste each others time, I've deliberately included a number of things here that some women would consider "show stoppers". I’m deliberately not going to say a lot about what I’m looking for in a woman, because you never know who the right one is until you meet them. Although I’d prefer someone closer to my age, my sister found her soul mate to be a man 16 years her senior, so I’ve decided to open that up as well. A couple of “must haves” are living within your means, a reasonable level of fitness and a desire for a real relationship. If I sound interesting to you, please send me a note…Don’t bother with the winks.
For me, it's not about the date, it's about the relationship.
