I am a dedicated engineer with a passion to change the status quo. "That's just the way it's always been done" is not good enough for me. I question everything and always prefer the truth over a convenient lie. I am very intelligent, and thoughtful interaction is an absolute must in my friendships and relationships.
I grew up very poor, worked my ass off, had the support of some great people, and had a lucky break or two that put me in a position to make a better life for myself. Investing in children who are in the same situation I grew up in is important to me.
I make myself sound like a hard hitter, but I'm actually pretty laid back most of the time. As long as you don't get me talking about video games, politics or social issues, I don't get too excited. I am told I have a great sense of humor, but everybody says that in these profiles so it seems meaningless to dwell on it.
My defining personality traits are my intellect, being honest to the point of people wanting to punch me in the throat, and keeping my head on straight under pressure.
I hold honesty to the highest regard. The two things you need more than anything to make a relationship work is a willingness to MAKE it work and open, honest sharing. Take either of those away and you don't have a chance.
I work hard and occasionally travel to handle problems or testing in the scope of my job. I recently bought my first home, so I spend a lot of time these days fixing it up. I have been involved in martial arts on and off for about 12 years. I also volunteer time to things that let me invest in and mentor children. It's a long list so just ask if you want to talk about it.
I love video games. I try to play when I have free time. My match doesn't have to play with me, but I don't want to hear about how grown men that play video games are this or that. I'm successful professionally, much more mature than most men my age, and I take care of my relationships and responsibilities. If the worst thing in the world about your husband is that he likes to pretend he is a farmer and grow virtual pineapples, I think you would consider yourself lucky!
The sort of person I am looking for tells me her feelings before they decay into resentment. She pushes me to succeed but supports me when I don't. She knows that relationships take work, and real love is a choice, not a cocktail of hormones. She stimulates my mind with meaningful conversation and challenges me. When I have had a rough day, she sits on the couch and runs her fingers through my hair while I fall asleep in her lap, and she knows I would do the same for her.