I just want to start by saying, if you send me a short message like, "You're cute," or "Nice profile," it will not elicit a response from me. I'm looking for a guy with substance. Also, I don't trust profiles without pictures. I would never buy shoes online without seeing a photo.. Similarly, I won't even READ your profile unless I can see that you are a real, living, breathing, AGE APPROPRIATE man. I just wanted to get all of that off my chest :)
Ok, now for the good stuff:
I am an easy going, laid back kind of girl. I'm pretty much always down for anything. I'll try (just about) anything once. I'm often told that I'm really easy to talk to, so I'm the one my friends always come to for advice. Although it keeps me ridiculously busy, I absolutely LOVE my career.
Some of my likes include sports, cooking, reading, listening to live music, or just sitting in a coffee house talking. Some of my dislikes include sea food (GROSS!), close minded people, and most rap music. You will rarely find me out "clubbing"... (I think clubs are just warehouses where they keep the a$$ hats at night.) And although I'm deathly afraid of heights, I'd LOVE to go skydiving someday.
As far as relationships go, I think the keys to a successful relationship are communication and trust. My word is my bond, so I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt until they lie to me or lose my trust in some other way. Infidelity is INTOLERABLE.
I'm looking for a MAN.. "Boys" need not apply. I'm extremely busy, and my career is kind of my life right now.. I work 50 hours per week, so he must be secure with himself.. My ideal match is sweet, down to earth, DRAMA FREE, active not only physically, but also in his community, can make me laugh, and (most importantly) is intelligent and educated. My perfect match is my best friend, my confidant.. he can joke around and laugh, and then snap into a serious and meaningful conversation at the drop of a hat. He will be a gentleman.. I know that chivalry is NOT dead. He will love me for who I am, and never try to change me, because as Marilyn Monroe said, "..if you can't handle me at my worst, than you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
Turn offs include bad spelling (I'm not the greatest speller, but at least I know how to use spell check), POOR GRAMMAR, and a lack of emotional investment. A huge pet peeve of mine is when people describe themselves by saying "I like to have fun," or "I want a girl that knows how to have fun." It makes me laugh every time (and not in a good way). Who DOESN'T LIKE to have fun? And fun is subjective, so what does it mean to know HOW to have it?
Obviously, it's important to be physically attracted to my match.. So superficially, I'm attracted to clean cut guys, tall enough so I can wear heels, that takes care of his body (there's nothing sexier than 6-pack abs). I'm NOT into guys that wear tank tops, or a grizzly chest or back (I prefer that he trims, but DOESN'T SHAVE). If a guy shaves his arms and legs, you'll find a Jessica-shaped hole in the wall faster than you can say, "Jess, will you please hold my man-purse?"
My goal in life is to be "successful." Everyone has different definitions of success, but I think Emerson got it right:
What is Success?
To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people
And the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics
And endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty,
To find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better,
Whether by a healthy child, a garden patch,
Or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.
--Ralph Waldon Emerson
Well, I'm not going to give away all the goods at once, so this is just a little taste of what I'm all about :)