I'm a positive, respectful, occasionally sarcastic yet well mannered fella. Although I'm very open minded and progressive in most of my life, I still think there are some things that are a guys job (read: opening doors, carrying the heavy bags, being emotionally solid, etc.). I think the most important determining factor of where any relationship goes is the chemistry. It can lead to many different places: to friendship, to someone who’s fun to date and pass time with or to realizing you have the foundation for a long lasting relationship. I'm open to go anywhere the chemistry leads me.
I’ve found I need variety and some adventure in my life. I would love to go to Monte Carlo casino night at a senior center where we'd play craps with a bunch of octogenarians, or go camping in the desert to watch a meteor shower, or any cultural event (listening to a speech from a politician –regardless of political party, trying a new authentic ethnic restaurant, spending an afternoon in a museum). Adventurous travel plays into that need as well. For example, last year I spent a month backpacking through India (and only 4 days of it was spent in a hospital with some weird food poisoning). I try and go abroad once every year or two. At the same time, I also enjoy more “normal” pursuits: I like wine tasting, the symphony and theatre, sushi, posh resorts and cooking dinner, curling up on the couch and watching a movie. In a nutshell, I'm as comfortable in a suit and tie as I am wearing a backpack and hiking boots. I'd like to find someone who's similarly adventurous and appreciative of what life has to offer.
I tend to do well with people that are a little more talkative, at least between us -not that I can't lead or keep up in a conversation regarding just about anything or everything, because I’m pretty sure I can- more that I listen well, tend to be more of a thinker and like someone I can play off of. It’s important that we get along and enjoy each other’s company on any given Tuesday night chatting over dinner about nothing of any significance at all.
Final notes (warnings?): I watch CNN regularly, I pay attention to world events and national politics, I don’t bring the drama and I don’t really like it when it’s unnecessary either. Although my job is typically a flexible 8-5 gig, once every month or two I have to work a stressful 60-70 hours/week. Fortunately I really enjoy the work and wouldn’t trade it for anything… at least for now. My family is very important to me. I have many good, long-time friends who are very important to me as well. I tend to be very rational and analytical in most areas of my life. I stay active with the usual list (running, the gym, sports, etc.). I find loyalty very attractive and I am very loyal. Although I sincerely respect others beliefs, I personally have fairly strong traditional family values and I try and keep my moral compass pointing in the right direction.
Have you ever heard of the theory that we should all be with someone who, if they were our same sex, we would otherwise have as a close friend? I have. So I guess a good question is even if you thought I was a smelly ogre would we still be friends? If yes, we may have a shot.