Abstract: I am a University Science Professor and recently divorced father of two girls. Contrary to what my profession implies, I am not socially awkward; I am very energetic, great with people, and am usually the life of the party (I will make you laugh till you cry). My goal here is to ultimately find a partner, companion, counterpart and best friend to make some lasting memories (while probably forging some new friendships along the way).
Introduction: I am originally from Arizona but my family roots are in the upper mid-west which may explain my inherent core values (honesty, integrity, hard work, etc.). I am serious and driven in my career. Besides teaching, I have my own laboratory where my research group studies breast cancer and stem cells; greatest job in the world. My two daughters (10 and 13) are the most important things in my life and take up most of my "spare" time. I am awesome with kids and have no problems if you have your own.
I would describe myself as a living paradox. I am an extroverted introvert (love to go out but love to stay home alone). I am an optimistic pessimist (I try to be a pessimist so I will never be disappointed but can’t help myself!). I am a cynical idealist (always want to make things better for others but the machine constantly thwarts my efforts!). I am a serious joker (a driven person but always injects humor into any situation; even very inappropriate situations). I am also a manly girly-man (I play rugby football but proudly drive a minivan and clip coupons). If you were worried, no, I am not bipolar.
Results (Positive): My friends would probably say that my best attribute (and favorite thing to do) is to make people laugh. I love getting to that moment where someone will laugh and let their guard down, they relax; that’s when you get to meet the real them. I will try anything to get a laugh. My main weapons are sarcasm and self-deprecation. I am also relatively adventurous in trying anything once (with exceptions, of course). I want to see as much and experience as much before I can’t, know what I mean?
Results (Negative (?)): I can be opinionated (52% of the time I am right all the time) but my views can be changed if the discussion is rooted in facts and logic – faith, gut-feelings, obscure correlations, etc. are irrelevant. Which brings up religion… I am an atheist. I will not, however, judge you based on your religious views just as long as we keep our (dis)beliefs to ourselves; let’s agree to disagree. Unless you reject evolution, in which case I urge you to immediately close your browser, put on your red Nike shoes and drink the grape Kool-Aid (see: Natural Selection).
Conclusions: I am looking for a partner who, like me, is genuine, honest and open. Life is too short to play games and to try to mold ourselves to be someone we are not. This was a painful but important lesson I learned from my marriage. Another important lesson was the need for communication – we must talk honestly and constantly; none of that passive aggressive stuff or burying our feelings. This will easily make us best friends and strengthen all aspects of our relationship. I am looking for a confident, independent, strong woman who takes care of herself (and family); she doesn’t need a man but she wants one. Please do not respond if you are clingy or insecure (emotionally or physically) or if you have been described as “high maintenance” – I will not be your emotional blanket, savior or Sugar Daddy. I am highly attracted to women who are intelligent, witty, driven, mature (intellectually) and know what they want. In most cases, age and race make no difference to me; it’s about connection. If the above describes you, please send me an email. Thanks.
