Someone once said, "To walk the world alone is to see only half its sights."
I'm tired of thinking that I can still see the whole world on my own.
My friends would immediately describe me as thoughtful, creative, reliable, athletic, and outgoing.
Yet my closest friends would also describe me as surprisingly sensitive, funnier than anyone would initially believe, and quite affectionate around the right woman.
So, why would you want to meet me???
Well, because...I am a steady income balanced with dreams of becoming a more accomplished writer. I am extensive wine knowledge that can always give way to a happy hour deal or a Blue Moon. I am classic Banana Republic with secondhand store treasures mixed into my closet. I am an Olympic physique (if the sport was badminton!) :p
When it comes to female attraction, I don't believe in using a checklist. Maybe that's why I always thought that I was above online dating. Until now.
The ideal woman is complementary to me--instead of being identical to me. (And if you already knew the difference between why I used "complementary" instead of "complimentary", then we are already headed together in the right direction!) She can make me smile even when I don't even realize that I'm smiling. She can make me feel inspired simply by demonstrating the things that she does best. She can make me feel strong just by falling asleep on my shoulder after a fulfilling day together. My ideal woman should want that for me...because it means I'm doing something right for her.
Because when you meet the right companion face-to-face for the first time by chance, I imagine it is like first meeting a unicorn. Yes, unicorns and the right companion! People say they really don't exist, but you still believe in your heart they're possible, so you keep looking.
For the record, I really don't believe in unicorns. And I also don't believe in splitting the check on the first date.
Thus, I make my return to online dating after being rejected by eHarmony. YES, absolutely TRUE STORY! Apparently, I'm one of those rare singles that eHarmony claims are unmatchable. Believe it or not, there are vegan ex-cons who also love cats and videogames--and that still live under the roof of their parents--who have a better chance of finding their soul mate on eHarmony than me!!! (Fortunately, I can always laugh at myself.)
OK, then, so how do we know that we're right for each other before a first date? Well, let's start the dialogue!!! Just don't try to learn everything about me online. I'm old-fashioned enough to still believe in the magic and mystery of connecting with a woman on a first date or first encounter.
Start by telling me a story. (I'm a storyteller/writer, so I'm a sucker for a good story.) If you start by asking me about my day job--or the kind of car that I drive--then surely, we'd never make it through a dinner date. (Midweek dinner dates are so under-rated!)
If a story doesn't immediately jump out at you, then answer a question for me that nobody has asked you a hundred times already. What is something about you that I could never guess simply by looking at you??? Or a hidden talent of yours. Or the one thing (aside from a pet or old photos) that you'd make certain to grab if your home was on fire. Or the meaning behind the last great road trip you took. Or the biggest compromise or sacrifice that you made and regret doing because of some guy--and what you learned most about yourself.
Entertain me, and I'll entertain you!!! And the rest will take care of itself...