I am a native San Franciscan. I grew up attending the best schools in the city. I was admitted to Stanford through a clerical error, where I studied Economics and East Asian Studies, with a focus on the political economy of modern Japan. I took Japanese for 3.5 years while I was there, and never got better than a B-. Lived in Japan for half of 1999, as a Junior. Loved it. Came home graduated into the tech bust. Worked briefly in Silicon Valley, before quitting to enlist in the army as a reservist 30 days before September 11th. (Luck and I are pretty much strangers.) Worked in various entrepreneurial capacities in the Bay Area. Received a direct commission as an officer in 2003, along with mobilization order for Iraq. Talked my way into a 5 month unpaid internship at a private equity firm in Palo Alto. (There's a story there.) before spending 12 months in Iraq from 2005-2006 doing Civil Affairs and Military Intelligence. (Happy to talk about it, if interested.) Came back and was offered a job at the firm, even though I didn't know anything about private equity... or finance really. Figured it out (turns out it's not rocket science). I'd finally found a career I loved! Left the firm to get an MBA at Haas-Berkeley. While there, I built my company (with the help of many people)-- an independent private equity firm designed to 1) research and acquire small businesses based in California and 2) give young MBAs exposure to real private equity work and the chances to work on multiple companies, industries, etc. Received a graduation present from the US Army-- an all expenses paid trip back to Iraq for another 7 months! Got home in early 2010, get the business up and running. Left the Army as a Captain in 2011. Now I'm just trying to get my little company off the ground. And that's the history version of me.
But what am I really like? I'm laid back. I like to enjoy life. I'm full of contradictions, and don't mind confounding expectations. For example, I'm the only guy who played lacrosse and sang in a (kickass) a cappella group at college. My credo is Strength, Honor, Wisdom, for reasons that you should ask me about. I have high standards for myself and I sometimes fail to meet them. I am surrounded by great friends (elementary school, high school, undergrad, b-school, the Guardsmen) and lots of family (6th generation SF supposedly, though I can only testy to 4). I have an irrepressible sense of humor which sometimes makes me a wit and sometimes makes me a wiseass. What else? I want to do big, big things with my life. I'm political. I'm highly over-educated. I'm bored talking about myself.
What am I looking for? I tend to think of three qualities I am looking for in someone I spend time with. The first, and easiest to judge, is looks. Some people say it doesn't matter-- it does for me at least. I'm greedy that way. (As for attractiveness, I am a confirmed eyes-and-smile guy.) Second, is that I want her to be fun/funny/interesting. This is where I envision us old and wrinkly on a porch somewhere. Just... sitting around being old together. I don't know what I'll be doing when I'm that old, but I won't be sitting around, and I probably won't have a porch. But you get the idea. The point is-- I want a woman that I will want to be with and around in these years. (No empty headed beauties for me, please.) Lastly, she just really needs to be a GOOD person. A kind soul. Someone who wants to help people. Make a difference. Leave the world better for her having passed through it. Maybe in a big way. Maybe in a small way. But it should be important to her, to be kind, caring, humble and generous. I list these things in this order because you can see beauty from across the room, and you can see that someone is fun and interesting after a few weeks or months. But it takes a while to see that someone is truly a kind and generous soul.