To have emotional intimacy
To build an honest friendship
To get to know each other's families
To share a refuge -- home -- from the harsh world outside
A genuine interest in his background, childhood, family.
Comforting assurances of your affection.
An emotionally safe situation, where his vulnerability won't be taken advantage of.
Respect for his strength and sensitivity.
A cozy setting with his favorite foods, warm lighting, private feel.