I hear most men love talking about themselves, so this should be easy for the guys, right? I’m also told that our communication skills often aren’t great, so it may be a catch-22...
Caveats aside, I’m a guy who historically may have worked a little too much at times, who has no trouble filling his spare time, but would like a good excuse to carve out more time for someone special. Though kids would be a great bonus if it works out, I’m also a guy who thinks a married couple is already a family - and I'm comfortable that it could go either way depending on who I end up with.
I got my values growing up in the northeast, summering on an island on a lake in Maine (summer camp, 8 years) and on Cape Cod, doors down from the local lighthouse (which doesn’t shine in the windows as some think) and, more importantly, in sight of boats. Boats may not make the world go ‘round, but they sure are a nice way to go ‘round the world. My own is a simple but effective runabout...sailing is even better if you’ve got the right breeze – and boat, and crew. I once sailed a lot and hope to again.
The combination of my career and a stop to collect another degree has taken me to Tucson (oh so briefly), Denver (where part of my soul still lingers in the mountains nearby), Chicago (for school and all the fun that goes with it), Detroit (3 suburbs anyway), Redondo Beach CA (love living outdoors all year), and a recent detour to Houston. I left Houston recently and am now working on a startup idea I've had for years...if it works, I may never return to corporate life. Time will tell! Behind every successful man is an incredible woman...I'd love to find that woman to be my partner in all things as I try to make this idea into a success.
As I've moved around, I’ve learned to love each place I've lived in its own way, though Detroit in the winter and Houston in the summer were a bit of a stretch … the others, easy. Arizona is just beautiful… Denver has everything save the ocean (a big miss, I admit)… and Chicago is spectacular except for its location. LA has spoiled me with its weather, as I love the sun for walking/hiking with my lovable mutt (purebred actually), riding the 30-year-old bike I bought new with paper route money as a kid on the beach, playing tennis, and running otherwise pointless errands in my convertible. Any former easterner who moves to the beaches of California needs one.
I do look for family values, though I’m not sure I mean the same thing as W did when I say that. I appreciate a woman with a brain, and yes, I’m also a full-blooded guy, so I also appreciate a woman with other compelling attributes. But definitely with a brain, and I like humor – and happen to think that sarcasm is a great thing when it’s clever and good-natured, unfortunate when it’s barbed. Other criteria: high energy but low key. Appreciative of tropical beaches (easy sell?) and easy to appreciate on a tropical beach. Sufficiently self-aware and grown up to know who she is – I’m not interested in helping someone figure that out. Oh, and you must love my dog. Honestly, that’s the easy part. He is the most-loved animal on the planet, as far as I can tell - easy-going, friendly, obedient, fluffy.
What’d I skip? Plenty, which is why we should have a cup of coffee if we match. Football? I like it but fall far short of being an addict. Cars? They’ve been the best part of my career but I don’t tinker on weekends. Travel? Though I have traditionally done too much for work, I still like to travel for fun. Women? That’s why I’m here… with an eye to quality over quantity. Sound good?